That's the most powerful part of dating. If you want to know what I think is the dumbest mistake people are making in dating,

it's wearing all of their consequences in their tone and none of them in their actions.

Welcome, welcome, one and all to the Love Life podcast. I am Steven Hasse, your host, your companion, your chum, to guide you through these episodes.

Today, we are going to be doing a follow-up on a concept we talked about on the last episode on the three texts that make someone pursue you.

So, if you remember in that episode, we talked about a concept called the Bliss Point and it's the idea of the ideal form of communication is a perfect mix between salty and sweet when communicating your standards.

But there are people who may critique this and may say, well, what if I'm just pissed with someone and that's what I want to express in that moment when they violate my standards.

So, we are going to jump to a live clip of Matt on stage talking about his response to this critique and one of the dumbest mistakes people make in the area of communication in dating. Check it out.

This weekend, I release a video about something I call the Bliss Point. The food industry has a term. A term called the Bliss Point.

The Bliss Point is the optimal level of salty and sweet in a food that keeps you wanting more of it. Think Nutella, think peanut butter, kettle corn.

What's the Bliss Point that means even though you're getting full, you're not satiated. You keep wanting more of that food.

I believe there's a Bliss Point in communication. And what I have done for this weekend's video that comes out Saturday evening for YouTube is I have broken down three text messages from guys and given people three Bliss Point responses, one for each text.

Here's my prediction. This is the magic trick. There are going to be a decent number of comments under this video from women who say something along the lines of if a guy isn't texting me on the day of our date and isn't giving me a plan or is being flaky or is making me do all the work.

I'm not going to send him one of these sweet, salty messages that you talk about. I'm not going to be nice. I'm not going to be kind. And they'll have something like hashtag that says boy, buy or something.

Mark my words.

In anticipation of these comments, because I know they're coming. I started to think about this.

And I thought, what will I say to those people who already know are going to say it even though they don't know they're going to say it yet.

You don't have to be ruthless in your tone. If you are ruthless in your actions, I repeat.

You don't have to be ruthless in your tone. If you are ruthless in your actions, in fact, if you are ruthless in your actions, you can be sweet as pie in your tone.

Tone isn't that big of a consequence. Tone just has the ability to make you sound really unattractive and hurt by something.

So what tone has the potential to do is show someone that they have total power over your emotions.

I get angry with you. I get pissy with you. I do that whole boy buy. All I'm showing is that you have actually had an effect on me.

You've actually angered me. You who I barely know. You who I barely know who might as well be a stranger we've seen each other this little.

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