8 questions to ask yourself when it all goes wrong. Self Interview with Seth

Anatomy of Change

Kids & Family, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Society & Culture

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🗓️ 9 December 2025

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

1. “Take me back to the moment when your life cracked open — the divorce, the unraveling, the identity collapse. What did you believe about yourself in that season… and what did you later realize was a lie?” 2. “At your lowest point, how did your conversations with God sound? Not the polished, Sunday-school version — the real, raw, messy prayers. And what changed when you stopped performing for God and started being honest with Him?” 3. “You’ve said many times that you are best equipped to help the person you used to be. Describe that man: What were his fears? His patterns? His blind spots? What did he most desperately need to hear, and why didn’t he hear it sooner?” 4. “There’s a difference between growth and transformation. Growth is additions; transformation is becoming someone different. What did you have to kill, surrender, or bury in order to truly transform?” 5. “What are the non-negotiable disciplines — spiritual, physical, mental, relational — that have actively re-shaped your identity and helped rebuild you from the inside out? Tell me how each one rewired something specific in you.” 6. “What is one thing you believed about God, love, or masculinity that turned out to be completely wrong — and how has that new understanding changed how you show up as a father, partner, and man?” 7. “If a man is listening right now — angry, heartbroken, ashamed, stuck in patterns — and he doesn’t believe change is possible for him… what would you say that isn’t motivational fluff, but a brutal, hopeful truth?” 8. “When you look ahead — not at goals, but at the man you are becoming — what does spiritual strength, emotional maturity, leadership, and love look like in 5 years? And how do you make sure that future man is born, not just imagined?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello, welcome. What's up, guys? My name is Seth Studley. I'm a licensed marriage,
0:03.8	family therapist, and a high performance coach. Welcome to Anatomy of Change podcast, where we talk
0:09.0	about all things change, growth, growth mindset, the hard stuff, the good stuff, the dramatic,
0:14.9	the not dramatic, the growth, the change, the possibility of where you are now is not where you have to stay stuck,
0:22.4	is not where you have to be if you choose to change. Change is possible. Trust me, change is
0:28.6	possible. So thanks, guys. Welcome to the show. And today I want to talk about this idea that we
0:36.1	came up with. And when I say we, me and Bianco, we're doing a lot
0:39.5	of stuff together now, more on the podcast. So this series is going to be a self-interview
0:45.8	series to where I crafted a series of questions about seven questions that are designed to really
0:53.0	break open like the stuff that I've been going through,
0:57.8	the changes that have been occurring. And part of this is to truly try to help you guys.
1:05.8	Like I love sharing my story because when I share my story, I find that it helps me and it also helps
1:13.4	you. I've talked about the power of going second before. So when I can talk about something
1:17.1	hard, difficult, amazing, cool, overcoming some sort of change or challenge in my life,
1:24.0	it gives you permission and it normalizes talking about the whole ordeal, right? So today,
1:29.4	I'm going to be talking about a self-interview questions. And, okay, I'm just going to be honest
1:35.4	with you guys, because if I'm not honest, then I'm not anything else. I've had a hard time
1:40.6	coming up with, divorce is weird.
1:45.6	I'll just, I'll just tell you that.
1:46.9	And it's the holidays coming up, and I'm just going to be super transparent.
1:50.0	Divorce is weird because there, it's now like, okay, the first official Thanksgiving with being separated from the kids.
1:58.5	You know, we have to trade thanksgivings and kids have to eat two dinners and all this other bull crap that divorce makes you do.
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