Welcome to Episode 782 with my guest Kyle Kittleson. My name is Paul. How are you? If you're new,

welcome. I hope you find this to be a place for honesty about all the battles in our heads,

from medically diagnosed conditions, past traumas, and sexual dysfunction to everyday compulsive negative thinking.

Just a reminder this show is not meant to be a substitute for professional mental counseling

is I am not a therapist.

What I do know is that life is good no matter what my head tells me.

Really, the longer I'm alive, the more I realize that,

that the majority of my mental and emotional suffering,

not all of it, but the majority of it,

is me self-obsesseding, over-analzing, looking into my crystal ball, which is broken,

or obsessing about the past and where I looked bad or made mistakes or hurt someone.

And, you know, not that we shouldn't reflect on when we've heard someone and try to clean up our mess and make amends or make things right if we can.

But the dwelling on it, the dwelling on it, it just corrods my life, my mood.

And so I try to remember that.

And honestly, 90% of the time when somebody asks me, how am I doing?

I say, my life is good, no matter what my head tells me.

And when I can really believe that and not kid myself into believing, but really believe that, I can feel it.

Because isn't that, maybe I'll just speak for myself,

but my biggest challenge, one of the things that led me to get help way back in the year 2000 was I had this life on paper where some of my dreams

were coming true and my peers were like oh my God I envy you and I couldn't feel any of it

I just felt dead inside and And so like it, if you're not, if you're not

doing the inner work, it doesn't matter what the external is. I mean, how many just cranky

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