78: Why chasing validation lead me to the wrong relationships

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Sabrina Zohar

Mental Health, Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 4.8K Ratings

🗓️ 31 May 2024

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

Sabrina is back for a solo episode this week, exploring the pitfalls of chasing the wrong things in relationships, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and breaking negative patterns. She shares her journey from anxious attachment, seeking validation from unsuitable partners, to finding balance and self-acceptance. Sabrina recounts personal experiences of idolizing shallow relationships and ignoring red flags, which led to emotional pain and wasted time. She advises listeners to recognize when interest is unreciprocated, set boundaries, and trust their gut feelings. By focusing on self-love and understanding one's true needs, Sabrina highlights that healthy, secure relationships become more attainable. Ultimately, she encourages introspection and embracing discomfort as essential steps toward meaningful growth and fulfilling partnerships.

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0:00.0	Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of Do the Work Podcast.
0:07.0	My name is Sabrina Zohar and I am your host.
0:10.0	Yay, we're back for another solo episode.
0:15.0	Oh, babes, I like solos, I do.
0:18.0	I gotta be honest with y'all, guest episodes do perform better.
0:21.6	So for a lot of folks that say they prefer this their solos, I don't know, we all seem to really
0:25.3	long ago guess. But nonetheless, you know I'm never going to stop doing these. So I am so excited.
0:31.1	Today I get to share with you a little bit of vulnerability. That's why I have my phone actually because I have
0:36.4	Today's a fun episode. We are going to be talking about how me chasing the wrong things led me to the wrong things and the wrong
0:44.0	fucking people and chasing these unavailable, unattainable people. For me I am
0:49.7	heterosexual woman so I'm going to be talking in heterosexual norms but this goes for
0:53.2	anybody it's just I'm giving personal experience and story so bear with me but I
0:58.1	think it's so important for us to really talk about like yikes where we've been to where we're going right and if we don't
1:04.7	start to really address some of these things that are under the line in the hood and
1:08.2	like starting to really look at patterns then we're kind of doing
1:11.3	ourselves a disservice and so I'm gonna plug it now that's kind of why I created the course and the foundation course is there to help you guys to really understand like week one what are my dating patterns we start to go over limiting beliefs we We do inter-child work. We talk about
1:23.8	boundaries and non-negotiables. We go over all of these things because it's so
1:28.0	so important to lay a strong foundation. And I know a lot of people think like,
1:31.1	no, no, I'm good, I have all that organized and it's like
1:33.6	rarely do you not throwing shade at anybody but most of the people I work with as we
1:38.6	start to dive in really start to like flesh that stuff out we start to find like no I actually don't really know what I want or what I need. I don't really
1:45.6	actually I'm not even aware of my patterns all of those things. So today we get to talk
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