779 Build More Secure Relationships with Jessica Baum
The Terri Cole Show
Terri Cole
4.9 • 1.5K Ratings
🗓️ 30 October 2025
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
You keep attracting the same relationship patterns and don't know why. Psychotherapist Jessica Baum explains it's not your fault—your body remembers childhood dynamics through implicit memory and unconsciously recreates them in adulthood. Insecure attachment lives in your nervous system, not just your mind.
Discover why healing happens through safe relationships (not isolation), how to develop "earned security" even if your childhood was chaotic, and why depending on healthy people is the counterintuitive path to inner safety. True healing is somatic, body-based, and possible at any age.
Connect with Jessica Baum on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. Also, here is the freebie link that Jessica mentioned in the episode.
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| 0:00.0 | Well, hello there and welcome to this episode of The Terry Cole Show. |
| 0:04.2 | I just had a fascinating conversation. |
| 0:07.4 | I think you are going to love with Jessica Baum. |
| 0:12.7 | She's a licensed psychotherapist who is an attachment theory expert as well. |
| 0:22.0 | And she wrote a brand new book called Safe, |
| 0:27.4 | an attachment-informed guide to building more secure relationships. |
| 0:31.6 | And her first book was called Insecurely Attached, |
| 0:34.4 | which you might have heard of. |
| 0:35.6 | It was a bestseller. |
| 0:37.3 | It was so interesting, though, |
| 0:39.7 | talking about my, you know, selfishly, I'm interested in helping clients who are insecurely |
| 0:47.1 | attached become more securely attached. So we talked about all different ways that we can create what's called |
| 0:56.9 | earned attachment, right, where you can go from being more insecurely attached to being more |
| 1:04.3 | securely attached and how to become more aware of people's attachment style, especially when you're dating. |
| 1:11.7 | We talked about everything. |
| 1:12.9 | She shared her story. |
| 1:14.0 | It was such a fascinating conversation. |
| 1:16.3 | The book is called Safe, An Attachment-informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships. |
| 1:21.5 | I really think you're going to love this conversation with Jessica Baum as much as I loved having |
| 1:26.1 | this conversation with Jessica Baum as much as I loved having this conversation with her. |
| 1:42.3 | This is the Terry Cole show, and as you might have guessed, I'm your host, Terry Cole. |
| 1:45.3 | For over two decades, I've been a licensed psychotherapist, |
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