761: 5 Ways to Approach Dating Meaningfully | Q&A w/ Dr. Laura Berman

The Art of Charm

http://www.TheArtOfCharm.com

Business, Health & Fitness, Education

4.7 • 11K Ratings

🗓️ 28 May 2019

⏱️ 61 minutes

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Summary

Where do you even begin if you want to get better at meeting people? Improving your communication skills is an excellent place to start. Communication is important in relationships, and even more important when dating. We’ll dig into best practices, tips and strategies for dating and meeting new people with Dr Laura Berman. What to Listen For What drew Dr. Laura Berman to relationship and sex therapy? What is the current state of sex ed in schools and why is it so inadequate? How does porn affect the way you get aroused and why is it doing more harm than good? What is the fundamental problem with the paradox of choice when it comes to dating and dating apps? Why is it so important to think about how you want someone to make you feel and how does clarifying that make dating easier? Can you use DNA to find your perfect match? What is the best way for you to approach dating in the #MeToo era? How quickly should you move from dating app to meeting and why is it risky to draw it out? Where can you practice conversational skills in low-risk areas and what happens if you don’t practice these skills? How should you go into dating as a parent and why is it so different? If you are dating as a parent, when is the best time to bring up that you have a child? What can I do if my mind goes blank every time I try to talk to someone I’m interested in? How do you keep the intimacy going in a long term relationship? What is the biggest behavioral predictor of sexual health in a relationship? What is the “want” underlying the desire to “spice it up” in the bedroom? What do you do if you realize your partner is no longer attracted to you? How do you rewrite your story so you can break out of dating the same type of people? Remember: A big part of having good communication is being honest with yourself. If you are honest with yourself, you know what you like and don’t like, you know what you’re good at and what you’re not. That automatically filters out potential dates or relationships that come racing in from your dating app. And if you are honest with other people about who you are and what you want, it makes it easier for them to decide whether or not they want to keep spending time together. Being honest with yourself and with other people saves you headaches, confusion, and time - and time is the most valuable thing we have as human beings. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com. SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase! Manscaped is #1 in men’s below the belt grooming. Manscaped offers precision engineered tools for manscaping with the right tool for the job. Get 20% Off, Free Shipping, and a free travel bag with the discount code CHARM at Manscaped.com. Your balls will thank you! Resources from this Episode Dr Laura Berman Quantum Love by Dr Laura Berman Dr Laura Berman on Facebook Dr Laura Berman on Twitter Dr Laura Berman on Instagram Dr Laura Berman on YouTube Uncovered Podcast with Dr Laura Berman Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram

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0:00.0	Welcome back to the Art of John podcast. I'm Johnny and I'm AJ and thank you for joining us on this show where we help you with actionable tips and strategies boost your emotional intelligence.
0:09.9	Advanced your social skills and navigate all the nuances of social behavior. This month on the show we've been tackling dating. That's right. We've approached it from the very beginnings and explored the biology that influences all of us.
0:24.0	And now we're rounding out the month like we always do with the Q&A episode.
0:28.0	And it certainly has been a fun month. You know, we've started in this space and it has been a long time since we talked about some of these and it was nice to give everything an update for the 2019 era.
0:40.3	Absolutely. And today we're going to answer questions that you sent in many of them directed at dating or long term romance and joining us today is someone we are delighted to introduce Dr. Laura Burman.
0:53.2	She is a relationship therapist and host of the podcast uncovered. She's also authored many books about relationships intimacy love and sex. Her latest book is quantum love and it's on the bookshelves now. So check it out.
1:07.4	Dr. Burman is a fantastic person to talk with and I can't stress enough how fun it was to have her on the show. And remember, you can send us your questions about dating love relationships, social anxiety and anything else we cover on this podcast. All you have to do is go over to the art at charm.com sauce questions to share your question.
1:26.7	You can also hit us up on Instagram at the art of charm plus AJ and I are there as well. I'm a OC Johnny and AJ's there as AJ Harbinger.
1:36.0	We also want to remind you that we run live in person advanced social skills training programs here in sunny loss, Angeles.
1:44.1	Yes, and they're filled with over 12 years of immersive coaching experience.
1:48.4	So if you enjoy what you hear on this show, but you feel stuck or want to sharpen your social skills and gain an edge on your competition, our signature bootcamp is where you want to be.
1:59.2	Imagine taking the material you hear on this show each week to the next level working with our team of social dynamics experts who will help you level up your networking skills and boost your emotional intelligence.
2:11.2	If you want to learn more about these world class bootcamp programs, check us out at the art of charm dot com slash bootcamp. We'd love to work with you.
2:20.0	And one more thing remember to listen out for our challenge to end each episode.
2:23.9	That's right. Each one is a fun little assignment designed to give you a little push at the start of your week.
2:30.0	We don't make them tough impossible or scary. We just want to offer you something that you can achieve with a little effort. Something you could test out on your own and feel accomplished about it afterwards.
2:39.6	That's right. Last week's challenge was tied into our discussion with Professor Jeffrey Miller and it goes like this.
2:45.8	Spend this week thinking of three high value traits that you're just okay. Then write them down after to ask yourself, what can I do to bring those traits to a better level? Maybe even excellent.
2:58.7	We'd love to hear about your experiences. So send them our way. It's super easy. You heard at the top.
3:03.7	Head on over to the art of charm dot com slash questions to write or record your voice or email us questions at the art of charm dot com. Let's get this started.
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