You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here. Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, which is a Q&A episode, I'm going to be talking about the old saying of

once a cheater, always a cheater.

And this was inspired by a question that I received on Instagram, which was my partner has

been married three times and he's had an affair each time.

Will he change?

So I've used this as a bit of a springboard into a broader conversation around the once a cheater,

always a cheater, saying that I'm sure we're all familiar with. And I'm going to be unpacking that

a little, talking about patterns of infidelity, talking about whether you need to be concerned,

someone in relationship with someone who has a pattern of cheating in their relationships, or maybe even

if you are the person who has had that pattern of infidelity, maybe you don't trust yourself

not to do it again and you have some fear and anxiety around your own patterns and behaviors.

So I'm going to be sharing some thoughts on this.

This will be a shorter episode as it's a Q&A episode, but I do have planned for a few weeks

time more of a deep dive on why people cheat and different explanations for that and

kind of digging a little deeper on this topic of infidelity rather than just casting someone

as a villain and shrouding the whole thing in a lot of shame and not really engaging

in the conversation in a way that is at all productive or that offers any humanity or insight

in a way that we can actually make use of because I think, of course, there's so much

pain and grief and sensitivity around this topic of

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