Hello and welcome to the new mindset hootis podcast. My name is Case Kenney at case.kens.k on

Instagram and this is my weekly podcast where I create short no BS episodes dedicated to helping

you become the person you're meant to be, leave your comfort zone and live a purposeful and

fulfilling life. Let's go.

Thank you. live a purposeful and fulfilling life. Let's go. All right. Welcome to episode 740. Hello, my friend. Welcome to a fresh new episode of New Mindset Who Dis, as always. Thank you so much for listening.

Thank you for supporting me. And today, in the pursuit of helping us be more optimistic and happier,

stop letting other people ruin your life. Stop letting other people ruin your life. And I don't necessarily mean that in the literal sense, like in the way someone might treat you poorly or hurt you or lie to you and it has a obvious very negative effect on

your life. That is inevitable. And unfortunately, there's not always much we can do. I'm talking about

the one thing we can do, which is not let the relativity of others ruin our lives.

That is who we are, how we feel, what we have relative to others.

That is, not letting comparison ruin our lives.

And that might sound like a bit of a, well, duh, case moment,

but there's some interesting psychology behind how we literally let other people ruin our

lives by way of comparison and by way of relativity. And I'll explain. And the truth of human nature

here is we do not judge our lives, ourselves, our feelings, our ambitions, you name it. We don't

do it. We don't judge those

things objectively. We judge them by comparison. We judge them relatively. We always have. And you

might be familiar with her work, Dr. Lori Santos, she's a Yale psychology professor, and she has

shown that human beings almost never, ever evaluate their circumstances

in a vacuum on their own terms. We don't look at our bank accounts. We don't look at our

relationships. We don't look at our routines. We don't look at our feelings on their own. Instead,

we measure them against the next persons. Rich people compare themselves to even richer people.

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