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Thank you. live a purposeful and fulfilling life. Let's go. All right. Welcome to episode 730. Hello, my friend. Welcome to a fresh new episode of New Mindset, Who Dis, as always. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you for supporting me. And today, I want to talk about what it means to be compatible with someone, likely in the context of a romantic relationship, but certainly friends as well. Compatibility, right? Are you compatible with this person or with these people?

Compatibility is a word that's thrown around a lot, and we've come up with many different ways to decipher whether we have compatibility or not. This is what compatibility means. This is how you know,

ask this question, probe this way, or, you know, test them in this way. But I have one thing, just one thing that I think

provides the answer that really is what we're looking for. And we might be able to get it like

piecemeal in other ways, but this in particular gives us a much clearer lens. And I'll tell you

what it is. I think we, we have compatibility like backwards, literally backwards.

We obsess over them, over the other person, what they do, how they act, what they say,

the effort they put in. Our lens for compatibility is them. They, them, what they do, their qualities,

how they act. And rightfully so, I guess, logically, but I do think of

compatibility in terms of like cart and horse. They are the court, the cart, and you are the

horse. And we have it reversed sometimes in that we've put the cart in front of the horse. You are the

horse. Come back to yourself first and foremost. Instead of them, come back to you. I think the only

question that's really worth asking, or at least the one that we need to answer, is do I still like who I am when I'm with this person?

Do I still like who I am when I'm with this person? I know who I am when I'm not with another person.

I know who I am as I wander this earth alone.

I know that person.

When I'm with this person, do I still like who I am?

And I think it's that important because the truth is you can't measure a relationship solely by them and their behavior and who they are. You measure it by

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