722 From Savior to Supporter: How Your Presence Helps More Than Unsolicited, Well-Meaning Advice

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Terri Cole

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🗓️ 3 June 2025

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Summary

Does everyone come to you when there’s a problem because you’re known for giving the best advice or being good in a crisis?

Do you intervene in family members’ situations before they even ask for help? Do you feel anxious or guilty when others struggle? Do you rush to smooth things over?

Or do you subconsciously look for people to save? The broken-winged birds?

These are all signs you might have a savior complex. If you’re exhausted from playing this role, you’re in the right place.

I’ll walk you through how to become an authentic supporter rather than a savior, the differences between the two, and share a few reasons why some of us naturally fall into the role of savior.

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0:00.0	Well, hello there, and welcome to this episode of the Terry Cole show.
0:04.8	I want to start with a question.
0:06.9	Are you the friend that everybody comes to when there's a problem?
0:12.0	Are you the one who's always jumping in?
0:14.6	Or do you know someone who's like a hyper helper or a super savior?
0:19.6	Anybody, anybody?
0:20.6	Well, that is what we are talking about
0:22.3	in this episode of the Terry Cole show. Basically, how to go from savior to authentic
0:29.9	supporter. And they are two different things, even though they can feel similar. They are not alike at all. So I'm going to be
0:42.1	walking you through the qualities of both and giving you some ideas of what you can do to move
0:46.5	it on over from Savior to supporter. Before we get into it, I just want to say thank you guys
0:52.4	so much for being here. I so appreciate you.
0:56.4	I'm feeling so nostalgic because the pot is turning 10 in September. And I just, there's so many
1:03.6	of you who have been here when I had a radio show on Hay House, I mean, 15, a long time ago,
1:10.7	somebody reminded me of that the other day. I was like, oh my God, that is true. Hayhouse, I mean, 15, a long time ago. Somebody reminded me of that the other day. I was like,
1:12.8	oh my God, that is true. Hayhouse radio. I did do that for a year and a half before I
1:18.2	basically turned it into the Terry Cole show. So anyway, I appreciate you. You can be doing
1:23.5	anything else, but the fact that you're tuning in and taking me with you. I love it so much.
1:27.9	And if you love the show, if you want to support it, it helps me so much if you rate, review,
1:32.5	or subscribe on Apple Podcast. So please do. And I want to say thank you, Nick C&M for this five-store
1:40.5	review, which the title is, thank you for the clear, insightful, and wise guidance.
1:45.9	Dear Terry, mostly I want to say thank you, a big thank you from deep in my heart and soul.
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