You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships

and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, I'm going to be

talking about how to love someone well, sharing five tips for

you to be more loving and open-hearted in your relationships. And I think that this one, while

primarily geared towards romantic relationships, as I reflect in this moment, as I'm saying,

and I think that most of what I'm going to share

could equally apply to other relationships,

really focusing on how can I love in a way that is pure and open-hearted

rather than, I think what some of us do without even realizing it is

we love with conditions and strings attached. We love to trying

get something in return. We love in a way that is inherently self-protective or self-interested,

particularly if we have a lot of fear around love and relationships. And while that's not our

fault, and that is why

doing this work is so important, because oftentimes we don't even know that we're doing it,

I think it is our responsibility. And it's certainly in our best interest and in the interests

of having really beautiful, loving, healthy relationships to reflect on how we're loving people and how we

could love people better. So that's what we're going to be talking about today. Before I dive

into that, just a couple of quick announcements. A reminder, again, I know I've mentioned it a few

times recently, but I am accepting applications for

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