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Episode 70, do I tell my daughter she's beautiful. You know, you really have the best skin. I'm noticing this as we're taping, like, it doesn't matter what time of day, whether you have makeup or not.

You have such great skin, And I just feel like I'm

moisturizing and moisturizing and moisturizing in this cold winter weather and can never get it right.

Well, Rina, I mean, number one, I'm vain. Number two, better living through chemistry.

Okay, so I started using topical retinase about 17 years ago. And, you know, I started using topical retinase about 17 years ago.

And, you know, I started on the, you know, the low grades, like lower dose stuff that you can get at the pharmacy.

And then I've sort of bumped it up over time.

And, you know, I can rationalize this as having grown up in Colorado where there's a lot of, you know, we got a lot of

sun damage because we didn't wear sunscreen back then. And retinets work to reverse sun damage.

Oh. But honestly, really, Rina, it's vanity. And they work. I mean, they work. They are,

you know, kind of boring, kind of old. They've been around forever. They're hard to get started

with. They can be pretty tough on your skin, but they work. They've been around forever. They're hard to get started with.

They can be pretty tough on your skin, but they work.

Yeah.

It just reminds me the divide between men and women who, you know, things that we obsess over that I know, men take care of their skin.

There's someone out there.

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