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into the podcast. Every relationship is going to have some degree of risk of getting involved

with a person. Now, if you get involved in a relationship with a guy who is married and still

living with his wife, high risk, in a relationship with a guy who's married and still living with his

wife, high risk, right, versus a guy who maybe he shows up on a date and is just a little

bit shy and, you know, he, he split the bill with you, okay? That's lower on the risk, right?

All right, Gary, today we're going to be talking about an avoidant attachment style. And I'm pretty sure that throughout my entire 20s, I was 1,000% an avoidant. What do you think? I just enjoyed being single. I don't know. It was fun. It was fun. I didn't want a relationship. What, you know. Yeah. Well, I think that's one way to feel like I for sure, right?

It's basically like it's like a fierce independence in some ways, right?

And so just as a reminder to everybody, attachment is our general patterns of relating towards

others.

And it has a lot to do with how comfortable you are, getting close to somebody else, sharing,

becoming emotionally

vulnerable, and then combined with your anxiety or worry about being hurt or left, right?

We talk about that as anxiety over abandonment.

And so avoidance tend to be worry about being left, right, or fiercely independent, Yet they're also not very comfortable being close,

right? Because they're worried about being left. They don't want to get hurt. And so being fiercely

I think I was just fierce. I was just fierce. I wasn't fiercely independent. I love that idea.

I was fierce in my 20s. That's all. And so, you know, one way is like that, that independence of wanting to be single. I'll say, like, I'm generally pretty secure, but there was a time after a breakup that I definitely got much more avoidant. It was like, that it was one that like hurt that like snuck up on me a little bit. And then it was like, ugh. And then you get this like, well, that's not going to happen to me again. I'm never going to let that happen. And then that's that's avoidance, right? I mean, you're worried about me. Women are the worst. They're the problem. Never ever dating another woman again. If she gets too close, goodbye. How many women do you think listening to this have said that about men?

99%. gets too close. Goodbye. How many women do you think listening to this have said that about men?

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