7 Signs You Have an Avoidant Attachment Style

Love Strategies: Dating and Love Advice for Successful Women

Adam LoDolce and Dr. Gary Lewandowski

Society & Culture, Adam Lodolce, Love Strategies, Why Men Pull Away, How To Find Love, Relationships, How To Find A Husband, Dating Advice, Relationship Advice, How To Improve My Relationship

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🗓️ 16 December 2024

⏱️ 41 minutes

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Have you ever found yourself perpetually in relationships that feel "close, but not quite"? Do you yearn for a meaningful connection yet struggle to make it past the initial stages of getting close to someone? Perhaps you've been hurt before, and now, the walls you've built to protect yourself seem insurmountable. If these scenarios resonate with you, you may be experiencing avoidant attachment, a subtle yet powerful force that shapes how we interact in our romantic lives. Originally Aired: F...

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0:00.0	Hey there everyone. Before we start the podcast, as you all know, there's a lot of bad dating and love advice out there.
0:06.0	And we want to put a stop to that. So if you're enjoying this podcast, you enjoy the content that we're putting out, please can you leave a review wherever it is that you're listening to this podcast?
0:16.3	It spreads a lot of love and it really helps get this message out there so we can help more women just
0:21.2	like you attract the love that they truly deserve. Go ahead and leave that review and let's jump
0:25.4	into the podcast. Every relationship is going to have some degree of risk of getting involved
0:32.6	with a person. Now, if you get involved in a relationship with a guy who is married and still
0:37.2	living with his wife, high risk, in a relationship with a guy who's married and still living with his wife,
0:38.8	high risk, right?
0:40.4	Versus a guy who maybe he shows up on a date and is just a little bit shy and, you know,
0:46.0	he split the bill with you, okay?
0:48.5	That's lower on the risk, right?
0:51.9	All right, Gary, today we're going to be talking about an avoidant attachment style. And I'm pretty sure that throughout my entire 20s, I was 1,000% in avoidant. What do you think? I just enjoyed being single. I don't know. It was fun. It was fun. I didn't want a relationship. What, you know. Yeah. Well, I think that's one way to feel like I for sure, right?
1:13.6	It's basically like it's like a fierce independence in some ways, right?
1:16.6	And so just as a reminder to everybody, attachment is our general patterns of relating towards others.
1:21.6	And it has a lot to do with how comfortable you are, getting close to somebody else,
1:25.6	sharing, becoming emotionally
1:27.7	vulnerable, and then combined with your anxiety or worry about being hurt or left, right?
1:34.8	We talk about that as anxiety over abandonment.
1:36.6	And so avoidance tend to be worried about being left, right, or fiercely independent, yet they're also not very comfortable being close,
1:48.5	right, because they're worried about being left. They don't want to get hurt. And so being fiercely
1:53.4	I think I was just fierce. I was just fierce. I wasn't fiercely independent. I love that idea.
1:57.5	I was fierce in my 20s. And so, you know, one way is like that, that independence of wanting to be single.
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