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7 common questions about workplace romance | Amy Nicole Baker

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4.111.9K Ratings

🗓️ 24 December 2019

⏱️ 6 minutes

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Summary

Should you date your coworker? Should workplace couples keep their relationships secret? And why are coworkers so often attracted to each other? Organizational psychologist Amy Nicole Baker shares the real answers to commonly asked questions about romance at the office.

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0:00.0

This is a special episode of TED Talks Daily featuring organizational psychologist Amy Nicole Baker.

0:07.8

It's from The Way We Work, an original video series from TED.

0:12.3

In each episode, leaders and thinkers offer practical wisdom and insight into how you can adapt and thrive at work when the rules are always changing. You can find

0:22.6

season one of the way we work on TED.com. Workplace romance can be a tricky topic. How do we manage the

0:31.9

boundaries between our personal and professional lives? How do we deal with gender imbalances and power

0:37.4

dynamics in the workplace?

0:38.3

There's a lot of gray area and workplace romance. I'd like to take a few minutes and answer some of your frequently asked questions.

0:44.3

So question one, should I date my coworker? Uh, it depends. Do you want to date your coworker for a bit of fun? Do you want to date your co-worker to hook up?

0:53.3

Because then you're really better off on Tinder. If you want to date your coworker for a bit of fun? Do you want to date your coworker to hook up? Because then you're really better off on Tinder.

0:56.0

If you want to date your coworker because you really sincerely think you're falling in love with them,

1:00.0

or there's a real great potential for a long-term, committed relationship,

1:05.0

maybe you should date your coworker.

1:07.0

Studies show that your coworkers are generally positive about it

1:10.0

if they perceive that you're falling in love and genuinely care about each other.

1:14.6

It's when your coworkers sense that something else is in play. That can be disruptive.

1:18.6

Question two. Should I date my boss?

1:21.6

In almost all cases, no, you should not date your boss.

1:24.6

Because now you've got a power dynamic.

1:26.6

When there's a relationship

1:28.4

between a boss and a subordinate, it generates a lot of negative feelings. And the negative

1:33.1

feelings tend to fall on the person who's lower on the totem pole. People usually assume some kind

1:38.1

of favoritism, some kind of inside knowledge, and there can be resentment stirred up by that.

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