685: End Emotional Outsourcing: Break Free from Codependency, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing with Beatriz Albina

Energized with Dr. Mariza

Dr. Mariza Snyder

Medicine, Health & Fitness, Alternative Health

4.8 • 974 Ratings

🗓️ 3 October 2025

⏱️ 56 minutes

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What do you really want the second half of your life to look like? Being a doormat for others, then resenting it? Saying yes, when you really mean no? Doing more tasks or more work, taking responsibility for everything, and feeling overwhelmed in your life? This can be how so many of us in midlife feel, but I’m here to tell you there IS another way. In this episode, I sit down with expert Beatriz Albina to talk about a challenge so many women face but can’t always name—patterns of overgiving, perfectionism, and the ultimate people-pleasing trap. Beatriz introduces the concept of emotional outsourcing and how it quietly drives these behaviors, leaving us feeling stuck and drained. Together, we discuss how reframing your mindset is a powerful tool for reclaiming your emotional well-being. Plus, Beatriz gives us a sneak peek into her brand-new book, End Emotional Outsourcing—a guide to finding freedom, balance, and true self-connection. Tune in here to reignite joy in your life, and find the inner peace you’ve been craving for years! Beatriz Albina Beatriz (Béa) Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and author of the book "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits". She’s dedicated to helping people socialized as women reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems, and rewire their minds to break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Béa hosts the Feminist Wellness Podcast, and holds a Master's degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. IN THIS EPISODE What is emotional outsourcing, and how can it impact women? Getting back to the basics for our emotional needs How our emotions lie in our nervous system– not just our minds Calming techniques you can do in 5 seconds, anytime, anywhere Detaching from labels like ‘co-dependent’ and ‘perfectionist’ How to stay regulated while also setting boundaries Why reframing your mindset is so important for healing All about Beatriz’s book: End Emotional Outsourcing QUOTES “This is what happens when we get activated or triggered in our nervous system. When we start being mean to ourselves, when we ignore our impulses, when we project, when we take things personally, when we get offended, all these things– our nervous system is in a different time and place.” “That’s the self-worth work. Saying, ‘I trust myself, I believe in myself, and so I know that this isn't a problem.’ And that's that. Not allowing any other thoughts to enter your beautiful mind space, your world, your body. It's really vital work.” “What our children and our partners, and our friends and our communities and ourselves want and need from us the most, most, most, is presence. Intunement and presence.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Use code ENERGIZED and get $100 off on your CAROL Bike purchase https://carolbike.pxf.io/GK3LaE Preorder the Perimenopause Revolution and get your VIP ticket to the Perimenopause Solution event http://hayh.site/pr_bl_ap-snyder_a_opt Order Béa’s book: End Emotional Outsourcing HERE http://beatrizalbina.com/book Béa’s Website Béa’s Instagram RELATED EPISODES #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey #553: Simple Ways to Start Feeling Calm and Safe and How to Align Your Nervous System for More Abundance with Kate Northrup #565: How to Live in a State of Ease and Flow vs. Overwhelm and Resentment + Reclaiming Your Aliveness with Alexi Panos #569: How to Build a Strong Emotional Connection with Your Partner and How to Transform Your Love Life with Vanessa and Xander Marin

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0:00.0	You're impressive on paper, but you're numb inside because you're just going and going and going and you're not stopping to pee and you're not stopping to smile.
0:09.7	You're not stopping to like be in your body because it feels really scary to be in your body.
0:14.5	Treat yourself like a taller toddler. Do you need a snack? Do you need sunshine? Do you need a nap?
0:19.7	Do you need to play with a friend? Do you need to color? Do you need water? Do you need a nap? Do you need to play with a friend? Do you need to
0:21.2	water? Do you need to poop? Welcome back to the energized with Dr. Marisa podcast. I'm your host,
0:29.2	Dr. Marisa, and I'm here to help you rock your hormones, optimize your metabolic health,
0:34.2	and feel energized in your body so that you can age powerfully and
0:38.7	wake up feeling amazing in your body for many years to come. Let's jump on in.
0:44.5	You know that feeling when you're running on fumes, trying to juggle it all, but your body
0:49.8	just feels depleted. This was me two months ago. Exhausted, frustrated, and thinking, there has got
0:57.1	to be a smarter way to move my body. And that is why I am obsessed with the Carroll bike. Here's the
1:03.6	truth. As women in midlife with hormones shifting and declining, the last thing we need is another
1:08.8	workout that drains us.
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1:42.3	turning back your biological clock by 10 years. It also cuts
1:46.4	diabetes risk by 62%. And here's what I love most. It's low impact, joint friendly, quick
1:54.3	and effective. No stress, no burnout, just results. And isn't that what we have been asking for? So are you ready to give it a
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