680: Becoming More Coach-Like, with Michael Bungay Stanier
Coaching for Leaders
Dave Stachowiak
4.8 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 13 May 2024
⏱️ 39 minutes
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Summary
Michael Bungay Stanier: The Coaching Habit
Michael Bungay Stanier is the author of eight books, including The Coaching Habit*, which has sold more than a million copies and is the best-selling book on coaching this century. He is the founder Box of Crayons, a learning and development company that’s trained thousands of people around the world to be more coach-like. His TEDx Talk on Taming Your Advice Monster has been viewed more than a million times.
One of the most common desires leaders espouse is wanting to get better at helping others grow. One great way to do that is to become more coach-like. In this conversation, Michael and I explore how we can do better at building this skill.
Key Points
- Care deeply for others while also being disconnected from their outcomes. Give people responsibility for their own freedom.
- Consider asking, “How much risk are you willing to take?” Allow the other party to define the boundaries.
- Bring a difficult observation as a third point. Separate the message from the person and let them decide what’s true.
- Avoid asking “why” questions of others to avoid putting people on the defensive and trying to solve their problems.
- A helpful checkpoint: is this question something that’s helping me or helping the other party?
- Silence is a measure of success. When you ask a question that lands, people need time to answer.
- Your body leads your brain. Notice your physical presence and how it manifests when you’re listening well.
Resources Mentioned
- The Coaching Habit* by Michael Bungay Stanier
- Register your book receipt for bonus items from Michael
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| 0:00.0 | One of the most common desires I hear from leaders is wanting to get better at helping others grow. |
| 0:08.0 | A great way to do that is to become more coach-like. |
| 0:12.0 | On this episode, Michael Bongay Stania is to become more coach-like. |
| 0:12.5 | On this episode, Michael Bungay-Staney your returns |
| 0:15.8 | to help us get better at building the skill. |
| 0:19.1 | This is Coaching for Leaders, episode 680. Produced by Innovate Learning, Maximizing Human Potential. |
| 0:28.0 | Greetings to you from Orange County, California. |
| 0:35.0 | This is coaching for leaders and I'm your host Dave Stahoviac. |
| 0:39.7 | Leaders aren't born, they're made. |
| 0:42.3 | And this weekly show helps you discover leadership wisdom through |
| 0:45.5 | insightful conversations. |
| 0:48.1 | So many of our listeners and members have told me in recent years how much they would like to get better at coaching |
| 0:55.1 | not coaching in the context of being a professional coach but coaching as in |
| 1:00.0 | being more coach-like, utilizing great coaching skills inside of their |
| 1:05.3 | organizations to support their teams to help to develop talent in order to be |
| 1:10.1 | effective. Today I'm so glad to welcome back a guest to the show who knows more about |
| 1:14.3 | being coach-like and helping us to do it than I think anybody else. I'm so pleased to welcome |
| 1:19.4 | back Michael Bungay Stannier. He is the author of eight books including the coaching habit which has |
| 1:24.4 | sold more than a million copies and is the best-selling book on coaching this century. |
| 1:29.8 | He is the founder of Box of Kranz, a learning and development company that's trained thousands of people |
| 1:34.6 | around the world to be more coach-like. His TEDx talk on taming your advice monster has been viewed |
| 1:40.5 | more than a million times. Michael, it is always a pleasure to have you on. |
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