Yo, today's QLD is people can be disappointed in you and they still love you

Here we go

Welcome back to the quote of the day show. I'm your host Sean Crox and the

Sean Crox and calm is throwback Thursday and we are turning back that

clock to episode number three 53 in our feature speaker Mel Robbins. I know

today's clip is going to connect with a whole lot of listeners because Mel is

going to share a story about something that almost all of us are dealing with

and that's the fear of disappointment. The fear of disappointing

somebody in our lives whether it be our family, our friends, our followers on social media,

our students, our colleagues, our bosses, it is a fear that keeps us from doing the things

that we really want to do in our lives so I hope you enjoy this story. Here's Mel

So many of us have this perfectionism gene and the reason why we're perfectionists is we're

trying to insulate ourselves from criticism. Then if you get it perfect no one will give you

feedback. If you get it right nobody's going to criticize you. If you do it perfect then no one

will be able to attack you and the problem with that and that's just another side of the same

coin which is the fear of disappointing people. You're managing not disappointing people,

not by lying and not by being codependent but by actually trying to be a perfectionist so

that nobody criticizes you. So let me tell you a story about the fear of disappointing people

in my own life because this is the biggest trigger in my life. I mean it goes back to being in

fourth grade right? It's there and this is another thing I literally have to remind myself of this

everybody every single day. You cannot remove the things that trigger you. You can't. If you've

been doing a pattern since fourth grade there will be things for the rest of your life that will

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