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Episode 67, should my teen go to a sleepover with her boyfriend?

You know, as I keep thinking a lot in the pandemic about what you said about hormones and middle school and high school and about how sometimes just seeing that really cute kid in class can help you as you're going. What was that that you had mentioned? That was such a great point.

Oh, just so much of the fun of school is the crushes, is the dressing up in case you see that special

person, you know, and just

especially when kids were home and alone and remote from their friends. As, you know, one kid said

to me, it was all vegetables and no dessert, you know, that's so much fun. You know, like, there's

so much that's hard about being a tween and a teen, and the romance and the

crushes can be a really fun part of it. Yeah. Well, we kind of sometimes forget about basic high

school things like having boyfriends and girlfriends, and we got this letter from a parent that talked

about a sleepover with a boyfriend. It says, hi, Lisa, I've loved your podcast and your talks with

Rina have provided me

with the wisdom to parent my kids more effectively. This coming weekend, there's a party that one of my

16-year-old daughter's friends is having. It's from 7 p.m. to 11 p.m. Because there's a curfew in our state

of Connecticut that you have to be home by 11 if you're within a year of getting your license.

My daughter asked if she can sleep over at her boyfriend's house.

I guess this is something that other families do in our area so kids can spend time together,

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