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Jason Waller here true underdog podcast guys I am super excited today of what's going down you better crank up that volume better listening because today we got somebody talking about love.

That's right love get the boats ready she's going to talk about she's a relationship coach she's an advisor extraordinaire body language expert and an entrepreneur powerful woman who helps women find their ideal partner using her signature love works method she's helped hundreds of women find lasting love fast she's the CEO of love works method the host of her own podcast love works and has been featured in Forbes money magazine ink.com and many more so let's get excited about the love doctor Nicole

what are you doing I am so excited to be here ready for this conversation that's right so I got energy I see you've got energy this is going to be exciting let's jump in so it's an honor to have you on the show appreciate let's get to the listeners we always go right to where it started you in a super tough time growing up in New York I can't imagine how it was especially right now but the doctor told your mom that you and your twin sister would not survive so she shouldn't get attached please share with us your childhood and how it gave you strength to become the legend.

You believe that Jason like doctors don't say that kind of stuff now this was in 1984 so we'll give that doctor a pass but you know basically created a crap it created this moment for my mom of like oh my god intense fear and I believe at the end of the day that most people's relationships aren't working because of that very thing it's not that we don't know how to love is that fear comes in and when fear starts talking it tells us to do some crazy things like not get to attach you know my twin sister also came home

weeks before I did from the NICU so can you imagine my mom is bonding with a child at home and then I come in so I came into that environment and of course my parents did the best they could but as a child I literally felt and had many moments that seemed to prove this to me right I'm just not loved I

literally remember thinking like oh those people have a family that loves them and like I don't so that was my inner reality and it doesn't matter if it was true or not of course my mom loved me but my feeling experience was I was vibrating I'm not loveable I'm not worthy I'm not loveable so can you imagine when I start to go date what happened bad relationships being so obsessive I couldn't sleep at night if somebody I liked didn't call me back I mean I was like so desperate so

needy so out of control because I had these wounds and I was trying to get them filled by the wrong people so all of that was like the suffering in my life but it created this very strong drive to figure out how to make love work the name of my

companies love works and I said I have to figure this out like this is like the main thing I want self love I want a relationship that works how do I figure it out so I

don't mean to personal development don't mean to studying myself I got certified as a life coach I kind of just was on this quest to figure this piece out and little by little I kind of started to figure it out for myself and then I started teaching other people how to do it as well

well congratulations I mean that is tough I've got three daughters I'm a grandfather you're married now you have a four-year-old son right share some insights on

parody after you found your love match and after following your own actual advice that you give to clients like what's that like to parent

yeah you know what it is how I always think because I literally every single client I've ever had has issues in their relationships or

finding love because of their parents so can you imagine I'm sitting here I'm like oh my god what do I do with this child so one

thing I always try and think about is so many people that came my way their parents had expectations if you do this I'm

going to love you if you don't do this I'm going to love you you have to be like parents sometimes want their

child to be a certain way so they can feel good or their ego can look good or they can now look bad to other

people so I'm always thinking about that with my kid I'm like what how do we let him be the most him

version of himself of course without getting in in danger but it's tough sometimes I can I catch myself of like

oh I want him to act a certain way because it's easier for me that's really the truth right and I think

it's like a truth that we have to face his parents and so that's the fine line I'm always looking at okay

loving him means allowing him to be who he is meant to be and sometimes that's going to conflict with

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