Welcome back to another week on the Ask Paul Trip podcast. Since we talked last week, Paul,

about Father's Day, your regrets as a father, advice for young dads, we have another parenting-related

question. Here it is. For those who grew up in a law-driven church and family culture,

how can we, now as new parents, embrace

grace-based parenting without swinging the pendulum too far? Is it even possible to be too far on

the grace end of the spectrum? So I want to give the model that I always give here because people

say, well, does grace mean I never enforce rules?

And I have to say this, grace never acts as if sin isn't sin.

If sin weren't sinful, if breaking God's law wasn't a horrible thing, the cross would have never been necessary.

The cross tells us that sin is serious.

It meant the death of the Messiah.

So as a parent, being gracious is not being a compliant parent who just lets anything happen.

That's not grace. In fact, that's the opposite of grace.

If God had just left us in our sin, how would that ever be grace?

That would lead to our destruction.

So how do I think about being an instrument of grace?

This, this, I had to pound into my head.

And it's been a mantra that I've repeated again and again in parenting conferences and in counseling individual parents.

Here I'm about to say, if on a given Tuesday your eyes see or your ears hear that sin, weakness, and failure of her children.

It's never an interruption. It's never an accident. It's never a hassle. It's never just a time to punish. It's an opportunity for grace.

Now, why does that? Because God knows what your children is needed and he has exposed the need of your children to you that's god

already working the reason you're hearing is because god wants you to hear because god loves your

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