Yo, today's QOT is begin to look for what's right in the relationship instead of what's wrong.

Here we go!

Welcome back to the QOT of the Day Show. I'm your Hope Sean Crox and the Sean Crox and

.com. We've got R.E.L. Ford making her debut appearance on the show and she's talking about how to

have a better relationship. And she's going to introduce you to a concept that I love called

Wabi Sabi and how making a subtle shift in perception when it comes to your significant other, especially

when they're getting on your nerves can bring you closer than ever before. Here's R.E.L.

So here's what happened. I woke up one morning at the age of 43 with the horrifying realization I had forgotten to get married.

I had created this amazing career. I worked with all the top self-help and spirituality authors. I had created the career by prayers,

processes, rituals, dancing naked under the moon. And it worked. It worked really well. So over here, life was great.

But when I rolled over in my empty bed, kind of sucked. So I thought to myself, what if I could use these prayers,

processes, and rituals to manifest my soulmate? And I didn't know if it was going to work. But I did. I made a list.

And for six months, I prayed. I chanted. I made vision boards. And then I met them. And three weeks later, we got engaged.

A year later, we had three weddings. Then something else happened. Did you know relationships are hard?

So I discovered I knew how to run a business. I knew how to be at the boss. No partnership skills.

I knew how to be a wife. And stuff started to happen. So for instance, I would get up in the morning. I'd go in the kitchen. I'd make my cup of English breakfast tea.

And then I'd be done. And I'd put my cup in the sink. And then my husband, my new gorgeous husband, would come in the kitchen and he'd say to me, why can't you put your coffee cup from the sink into the dishwasher?

I've been putting it in the sink for decades. It'll get there eventually. And then he'd say to me, and how come there's always crumbs around the toaster? And I'm like, what crumbs?

So this would happen almost every day. And it got to the point that when he started walking towards the kitchen, I think, oh, am I going to get spanked again?

And then one morning, the crazy thing happened. He walked in and he said, I got up at four o'clock this morning to get a glass of water. And I came in the kitchen and I saw your cup in the sink.

And my heart exploded with love for you. And when I saw your crumbs next to the toaster, I've never felt closer to you.

I'm like, what is this? It's good, but what is this? So here's what it is. The Japanese have this ancient aesthetic called Wabi Sabi.

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