all righty hope you're doing well uh so i have been racking my brain trying to figure out

this forgiveness thing which i find a very fascinating topic because there's this dichotomy

that's put forward that either you forgive or you are trapped in eternal bitterness and hatred forever.

Now, that's kind of like a medieval curse.

Do what I say, or dire consequences.

You must forgive, or I give you the voodoo curse of eternal misery and discontent and frustration and anger and rage,

and you'll be tormented by the

Saturn orbiting rings of tiny frozen demon heads until the end of time.

Not a great argument.

Honestly, you know, it's like, do what I want, or you will live in torment forever, it's kind of like a terrorist threat

in a way. Like, I mean, not real terrorism, but like emotional terrorism. It's kind of like a

terrorist threat. And I know lucky, not an argument, and it is, it's kind of destructive

and abusive. So why? Now, I mean,

obviously there are people in the world who benefit from being granted forgiveness without having

to earn it. It's kind of like when when people tell me how to do social media and be successful and they have like no followers.

It's like, why would I listen to you? You're a fat man giving me diet advice.

So people don't like having to earn credibility.

And the way that you earn credibility back when you've wronged someone is, you know, you admit fault, you apologize, you make restitution.

And then you show a reasonable plan by which

it's not going to happen again. So if you yell at some friend at a social gathering and call him

an a-hole, then you obviously need to apologize, you need to sort of say, here's why I think it happened,

not that I'm blaming you or making excuses, but, you know, my father yelled at me all the time,

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