Hi, I'm Sarah from Amazing If and welcome to this week's bonus episode where I'm going to be sharing three common mistakes that get in the way of building our confidence.

So mistake number one, unrealistic standards.

Really, this is all about we have different standards that we apply to ourselves versus those that we apply to other people.

What I would really encourage you to do is to try and put yourself in other people's shoes and think about what

advice you would give to someone who is in the same situation as you. So let's just talk about

what I mean by that. If you're somebody who maybe worries that they're not good at presenting

or you're worried you're not smart enough

you have a fear that you're going to be found out or really kind of common confidence gremlins

imagine somebody was coming to talk to you about that one of your friends somebody you work with

maybe somebody who works for you and they were having a conversation with you to ask you for advice

on i've got a fear of being found out, what

would you advise? What would you do about that? Think about what advice you would give that person

because usually you do know the answers. It's just that then the advice you give to somebody else

is then not what you do for yourself. So put yourself in someone else's shoes and almost kind of, I

suppose, hold a mirror up to the confidence gremlin's that you're experiencing.

And just try and think about what is it that's actually realistic for me to do?

What standards can I set to improve?

Because of course, we all want to improve and develop.

But just make sure that you're not holding yourself up to a really unrealistic nirvana of trying to be absolutely brilliant and fully confident

at everything all of the time because it's not what you would expect of somebody else so don't

necessarily expect that of yourself. That's the first mistake. Mistake number two,

being a bit of a one hit wonder. So this is something that I think is quite common when we think

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