6 Thinking Traps to Catch, Change and Feel Instantly Better

After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

Dear Media and Big Little Feelings

Big Little Feelings, Kids & Family, After Bedtime With Big Little Feelings, Deena Margolin, Kristin Gallant, After Bedtime, Parenting

4.5 • 5.8K Ratings

🗓️ 15 April 2026

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

What if the thing running your day… is your non-conscious thought patterns that are happening on repeat?? The same ones showing up every single day, silently shaping how you feel, how you react, and how you show up as a parent, partner, and person. In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the 6 sneaky, unhelpful thought patterns that drag us down day-to-day - and how to actually catch them in real time, replace them, and feel better.

We’re getting into:

- Why your brain loops the same thoughts all day (and why they feel so convincing)

- The exact moment your thoughts turn into stress, snapping, or shutdown

- The subtle difference between “venting” vs. actually moving forward

- The simple mental shifts that take you from *reactive* to calm, grounded, and in control

- Practical, in-the-moment tools you can use TODAY to change the way you think - and feel

This is the kind of episode that doesn’t just sound good while you listen. It literally changes how your next moment goes. Less spiraling, less snapping. More clarity, more “Ok, I’ve got this.” Once you see these thought patterns, you can interrupt them. And when you interrupt them, your whole day goes differently. And overtime, your new thinking habits will rewire your brain to be more resilient.

Your brain has been freelancing long enough. Time to take the mic back - let’s do this!

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Transcript

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0:00.0	The following podcast is a Dear Media production.
0:05.4	Welcome back to After Bedtime.
0:08.1	Now, today's episode is one of those that can genuinely change your day-to-day life.
0:12.7	We're getting into the very thing that's quietly driving everything, your thoughts,
0:18.6	the stories running in your head all day long that feel true but aren't always accurate
0:24.4	and are shaping how you feel, how you react, and how you show up as a parent, a partner, and a person.
0:31.2	I'm going to show you how those thought patterns work, why your brain keeps repeating them,
0:36.0	and how to actually shift them in real time.
0:38.9	So you can feel calmer, more in control, and less stuck in the spiral.
0:43.5	It's going to be a great one. I'm really excited.
0:47.1	Welcome to After Bedtime, where the house is finally quiet, but the real noise begins.
0:53.5	The thoughts, the questions, the wondering if you're
0:55.8	doing any of this right. We're Kristen and Dina, child behavior experts, moms, and co-founders
1:01.9	of big little feelings, and we're not here to give you more pressure or perfect parenting energy.
1:07.0	Nope. We're here to tell the truth, the unfiltered, beautiful, brutal truth about what it means to raise kids and re-raise ourselves in the process.
1:16.5	Because parenting isn't just about sleep schedules and snack hacks. It's about healing. It's about breaking cycles.
1:22.7	It's about becoming the kind of adult you want your kids to grow up to be.
1:26.4	This is the place where we say the quiet parts out loud, and we're so glad that you're here. Before we get into today's topic, which is going to be a really fun one. And my style of doing a solo episode is very like fast-paced, no fluff. Let's just get right to it. I love a podcast like that, so I'm going with it.
1:46.2	And before we go there, let's do a little catch-up together. So Kristen's not here today.
1:52.0	She's been, if you've been following us on Instagram, you know about what's been going on with Tyler.
1:56.3	They had a family emergency. Tyler had an accident. I'm happy to report. He was doing a lot better, but it was
2:02.1	really, really scary for a little bit there for all of us. Basically, he was in the hospital
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