Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

My name is Lisa A. Romano.

I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind.

My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness, rather

than living a reactive life.

May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope as you

spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

Today, we're going to be talking about the six signs that you're living your life for others

and not for yourself. So today we're going to be talking about the warning signs that we are

someone who is losing ourselves to other people and to relationships. And I think it's important

to start from the position that it is normal to want to feel connected to other people.

It is normal to want to gain a sense of validation or affirmation from other people,

but not at the expense of the self. When we are codependent, we are seeking a sense of enoughness from someone or something

or some experience outside of ourselves.

So think about this idea of co.

I'm co-dependent upon my children.

I'm co-dependent upon my husband's affirmation of me or his affirming of me as a person and as a good

person. I am co-dependent upon what my family thinks about me. And if my family and my friends

think I'm good, then I have a pretty positive self-image. The problem is it's not our self-image.

The problem is that we have given over our right to feel good about the self,

over to the hands of people who are just as wounded and just as imperfect as we are.

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