590- Don't Tell Me What to Do: Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) in Neurodivergent Kids
ADHD Experts Podcast
ADDitude
4.4 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 13 January 2026
⏱️ 64 minutes
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Summary
Children with PDA are extremely sensitive to real or perceived demands and may make excuses, use delay tactics, or outright refuse to complete requests. Learn more about PDA from Diane Gould, LCSW, including proven behavioral strategies and supports.
Pathological Demand Avoidance: Resources
- Free Download: Why Is My Child So Defiant?
- Self-Test: Is Your Child Showing Signs of Pathological Demand Avoidance?
- Read: When Angry Kids Lash Out: How to Defuse Explosive Reactions
- Read: A Parent's Guide to Navigating Pathological Demand Avoidance
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| 0:00.0 | This episode is brought to you by SOAR. Imagine this, your child sitting around the campfire, |
| 0:07.5 | making smores with new friends, developing life skills, grit, and tenacity, all in a screen-free |
| 0:14.7 | environment. That's SOAR. Success-oriented achievement realized. For nearly 50 years, SOR has been creating unforgettable summer camp experiences for youth and young adults with ADHD, autism level 1, and other learning differences. |
| 0:32.8 | At SOR summer camp, adventure is the classroom. Campers build confidence, independence, and social skills |
| 0:40.1 | while rock climbing, paddling rivers, or exploring new places, supported every step of the way |
| 0:47.1 | by staff who truly get them. And SOAR doesn't stop at summer. It also offers a boarding school |
| 0:54.1 | and a gap year program to help students succeed long after camp ends. |
| 0:59.6 | If your child learns differently, SOAR is the place where differences are strengths. |
| 1:06.0 | Learn more at S-O-A-R-N-C.org or call 828-456-3435. |
| 1:22.2 | Welcome to the Attention Deficit Disorder Expert Podcast Series by Attitude Magazine. |
| 1:31.9 | I'm Annie Rogers, and on behalf of the Attitude team, I am delighted to welcome you to today's |
| 1:38.3 | ADHD expert's presentation titled, Don't Tell Me What to Do, Pathological Demand Avoidance in Neurodivergent Kids. |
| 1:48.3 | Leading today's presentation is Diane Gold. |
| 1:51.3 | Diane is a licensed clinical social worker and the founder, an executive director of PDA North America. |
| 1:59.0 | She co-authored with Ruth Fiddler, the book Navigating PDA in America, |
| 2:04.9 | which was published in June 24. In April 2024, Diane was diagnosed as autistic. She has a |
| 2:13.1 | private practice in the Chicago area where she serves neurodivergent children, adults, and their families. |
| 2:20.3 | For the last 40 plus years, she has worked for both private agencies and school systems. |
| 2:27.3 | And we're here today to discuss pathological demand avoidance or PDA. |
| 2:32.3 | Children, teens, and young adults with PDA exhibit a strong desire |
| 2:36.8 | for autonomy and are extremely sensitive to real or perceived demands. They may refuse to do |
| 2:44.5 | a homework assignment just because you reminded them that it's due tomorrow or rack up an |
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