59: The "Up-Leveling" Trap and How to AVOID IT
The Chris Harder Show
Chris Harder
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🗓️ 28 September 2017
⏱️ 6 minutes
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Summary
My Two Cents – Ep. 59 – The "Up-Leveling Trap" and How to Avoid It
We're often told that if we want to get further and have more success we must start surrounding ourselves with those who are doing what we want to do or are doing bigger things. This is a good thing, however, when we continually spend time with these types of people we start falling into the "up-leveling trap," which is comparison.
We start feeling like we're not doing enough because we're not where they are. But here's the thing…mentors are supposed to be ahead of you! Don't compare your journey to theirs. Be conscious of your own journey and love where you're at.
"You have to pause and look back at how far you've come instead of looking at how far you have left to go."
Be grateful that someone else has done it first and is willing to share how to get you there. Be grateful they've given you a "roadmap."
"Be grateful for who you are and what you have right now and what you're doing, but be equally excited about where you're going."
When you can find this balance between the two, you know you're on a healthy journey to success and abundance.
The next time you find yourself about to fall into the up-leveling trap, do me (and yourself) a favor and make a conscious effort to stop comparison in its tracks. Catch your thoughts and meditate for five minutes in a quiet place. Think about and picture how far you've come in the last week, month, year and beyond. I promise it will shift your perspective and help ground you where you're supposed to be.
It's definitely normal for these thoughts to come up, but it is not OK to let them stop you, to wallow in them or let them be an excuse. Be grateful that others have paved the way for you and also allowed you to create your own unique path to success. And be assured that if you stay ambitiously on this path success and abundance will follow.
In This Episode You Will Learn:
- What the "up-leveling trap" is and how to avoid it
- Why the gap between you and your mentors should be view as a roadmap
- Why it's important to have gratitude for your journey
Resources:
For more stories and tips on becoming unapologetically wealthy, follow me @Chriswharder on Instagram and check out fortheloveofmoney.com.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome everybody this is for the love of money where we are making you |
| 0:08.6 | unapologetic about your pursuit of success by sharing the tools, tips, and stories of those who have already made it. |
| 0:16.5 | My name is Chris Harder, and each week I will bring you incredible guests |
| 0:21.2 | in order to prove that when good people make good money they do great things. |
| 0:36.6 | Hey, everybody welcome back to another mini episode of for the love of money episodes that I like to call my two cents and today's episode is this little trap that we fall into. |
| 0:44.2 | I call it the up-leveling trap. |
| 0:46.6 | And here's how it works. |
| 0:47.9 | Everybody, including myself, tells you to change the people |
| 0:51.9 | that are influencing you, hang out with people doing what you want to do, |
| 0:56.2 | you know, hang around people doing bigger things so you can expand your mind and expand your possibilities |
| 1:00.8 | and expand your knowledge and all of that is great information. |
| 1:06.1 | You have to do it. |
| 1:07.2 | There's no way to succeed without. |
| 1:08.8 | But then here's the trap that happens. |
| 1:11.0 | We start hanging around these people, |
| 1:12.5 | following these people, tuning into these people, |
| 1:15.8 | and we start to feel like we're not doing enough. |
| 1:18.6 | We start to feel like they're growing way faster than us, |
| 1:21.3 | or we'll never catch up, or they're so high up here that we don't know how |
| 1:26.7 | we're ever going to bridge that gap and it's this comparison that sometimes stops us in our tracks. And so what do we do? I mean if we are |
| 1:36.2 | supposed to hang around everyone who is going to up-level our game and those are the |
| 1:40.8 | people who are absolutely succeeding and killing it. |
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