I'm not sure what to turn or what to do. It feels like every day my marriage is inching closer to its end.

My wife and I have been married for seven years. We have three children, a five-year-old girl, an 18-month-old girl, and a six-month-old boy.

At various times over the past couple of years, my wife has told me that she does not feel like I love her in the same way that she loves me. According to her, she gives her requisite 50% of love and effort in the marriage,

and I'm only bringing 30%.

During the course of our various fights,

she will tell me that I am not the same man that she married,

that I am the cause of the problems in our marriage,

and that her options are either divorce or suicide.

She has brought up that binary choice on numerous occasions.

For my part, I strongly believe that I am a loving husband and father, and I feel that

my wife and I have an exceptional bond and a strong foundational friendship.

However, I will admit that sometimes I do not treat my wife in ways that meet her standards.

My shortcomings notwithstanding, I believe there is significant stress in my wife's life and

trauma in her past, that she is not fully reconciled and I don't know how best to help

my wife heal from or at least manage these issues.

I want nothing more than to make my marriage work, but we keep running up against the

same break wall.

And at this point, I am struggling to see a way through it.

So that's pretty much the rundown. And in addition to that, I just want to start by sharing with you my concern that my complaints or my issues, whatever I'll talk about today, don't actually

rise to the level of needing to call you and talk about it.

Because my childhood and my whole life in general has been comfortable, happy, healthy.

I've always been well taken care of.

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