Hi, Stefan. I am currently six weeks pregnant with my first child.

Things are going good and stable at home, both with my marriage and slow days.

Only now I have started to feel that I need to make contact with my abusive family once more.

I have a lot of Christians around me saying it's important to forgive.

And now that I am pregnant, I also feel that I want to see if they might change

or maybe have changed while we were separated.

Or if I say the right thing, maybe they change.

But I also fear that both forgiving them and also making contact with them

and endanger my unborn child, could we please discuss this matter so I don't do something stupid and ruin the chance I have to give my children a peaceful childhood full of peaceful parenting?

I mean, a very wise question.

I wouldn't put the stakes so high if you make a mistake and get back in contact with your family and they turn out to be nasty,

well, you can just not be in touch with them again.

So it's not like everything hinges on one decision and your children's future.

Like, you can, if you make a mistake, you can just undo that mistake.

I'm not saying it's not important, but it's not maybe as life-ponent life-altering.

Should I saw off my own arm?

Okay, well, that's a bit of a one-way trip.

But, of course, it's a great question to ask, and I'm obviously eager and happy to help.

However I can can so I guess

if you can tell me the story if you're childhood and what happened with your family yeah could I

just add something further it's your call what you don't have to do you like I would like to add

something um because I talked this through the other night with my husband as well.

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