575: Benjamin Hardy | Minding the Gap and the Gain
The Jordan Harbinger Show
Jordan Harbinger
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🗓️ 18 October 2021
⏱️ 54 minutes
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Summary
Benjamin Hardy (@BenjaminPHardy) is an organizational psychologist and author of books about willpower, self-limiting beliefs, and teamwork. His latest offering (co-authored with Dan Sullivan), is The Gap and the Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success.
What We Discuss with Benjamin Hardy:- If you measure your current self against your ideal (often chosen and defined by other people rather than yourself), you’ll never be happy because there will always be a gap. Unsuccessful people primarily focus on this (but we all wind up here sometimes).
- If you measure your current self against your previous self — and notice the gain you've made between yesterday and today — you’ll experience happiness, satisfaction, and confidence. The most successful people understand this.
- The difference between ideals (general, immeasurable, and constantly changing) and goals (specific, measurable, and time-bound) -- and why your ideals shouldn't be your benchmark for achievement, but merely the source from which your goals are inspired.
- How you can weed out the arbitrary reference points with which you've been burdened by external sources and choose ones that are actually meaningful -- not just constant reminders of what you don't have.
- How the increased confidence that comes from living in the gain allows you to set bigger and more imaginative goals to truly tailor the fabric of your own life.
- And much more...
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| 0:14.6 | So there's a great quote from Ernest Hemingway. |
| 0:16.8 | There's nothing noble about being superior to other people. |
| 0:19.6 | True nobility is about being superior to your former self. |
| 0:22.9 | And so the only real reference point you can actually have is yourself. |
| 0:28.6 | If I were to start trying to compare myself to you, I could probably find ways in which |
| 0:32.5 | in my head I'm doing better than you Jordan if I really wanted to. |
| 0:36.2 | And then I can find ways in which you're doing better than me. |
| 0:39.0 | And I can do this about anything and everything. |
| 0:40.8 | And so at some point you actually want to just remove external reference points. |
| 0:44.5 | And so that's actually where you start living in the game. |
| 0:47.1 | So you're either in the gap where you're measuring yourself against something else, or |
| 0:50.2 | you can just go into the game where you start referencing purely against where you were |
| 0:53.6 | yesterday. |
| 0:58.5 | Welcome to the show. |
| 0:59.5 | I'm Jordan Harbinger. |
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