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574: Can There Be Merit in the Extramarital? | Feedback Friday

The Jordan Harbinger Show

Jordan Harbinger

Education, Science, Business

4.812.3K Ratings

🗓️ 14 October 2021

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

You've been secretly chatting with an old flame whose torch you still carry, and you even met in person to discover that these feelings are mutual. But there's a big hitch: while you're now single again, she's in what seems to be an otherwise happy marriage and is mother to three. Now you feel frustrated, jealous, and even heartbroken because you can't be with her. Or can you? We'll try to help you find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/574

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
  • Rekindling with an old flame whose feelings are said to be mutual should fill you with joy, but her current marriage to another man and motherhood to his children is a bit of a downer. Can there be merit in pursuing something...extramarital?
  • You share custody of two children with a narcissistic ex -- one is hers by a father who was out of the picture by the time you came along, and the other was adopted. The problem: she shamelessly plays favorites and clearly favors her biological kid. Are you hurting your adopted child by allowing her to go to your toxic ex's every other week?
  • You're blind and working toward certification in a well-paying field, but it involves visual math concepts and a lot of the instructional material is inaccessible. On the other hand, your interest in languages makes a career as an interpreter appealing -- and it's much easier to accomplish. Should you finish the certification you've spent so much time and money pursuing, or just cut your losses and take the lower-paying but potentially more satisfying path?
  • You have well-off parents who let you live rent-free in a house they own while you finish school, but you think your roommate may be taking advantage of the situation by mooching free food without asking and even offering it to guests. What can you do to set better boundaries without creating an awkward living environment?
  • Working the night shift doing repetitive work wasn't really what you signed on for, so you've been looking for a new job. Now you've been informed you're on deck for training in a more challenging task that's more up your alley, but you're not sure you can work three more months of overnights before this is slated to happen. What are your best options here?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect...

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hi, this is Chris Hauer from the Plug-in and Chris Hauer podcast and I'm taking the Eagles over the Cowboys in their game Saturday, December 24.

0:05.6

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0:14.7

Welcome to Feedback Friday. I'm your host, Jordan Harbinger. As always, I'm here with Feedback Friday, producer, the Roy DeMai Sigbred, and y'all are, by the way, the Lions, who mollas on stage in case you are wondering.

0:26.0

Gabriel Mizrahi, on the Jordan Harbinger Show we decode the stories, secrets and skills of the world's most fascinating people and we turn their wisdom into practical advice that you can use to impact your own life and those around you.

0:37.6

So we want to help you see the matrix when it comes to how amazing people think and behave.

0:41.6

And our mission is to help you become a better informed, more critical thinker so you can get a much deeper understanding of how the world works and makes sense of what's really happening even inside your own mind.

0:51.4

So if you're new to the show on Fridays, we give advice to you and answer listener questions. The rest of the week we have long form interviews and conversations with a variety of amazing folks from spies to CEOs, athletes, authors, thinkers, and performers.

1:04.2

This week we had Tom or El Nuri who infiltrated terror groups inside the United States and Canada a fascinating story he's still undercover, which is why he's a blurry, pixelated blob in all the videos and pictures.

1:15.4

And we had returning guest David bus on why men specifically cheat in relationships. It's definitely outside the conventional wisdom here. David is an expert in evolutionary psychology and biology so this is really a more scientific and interesting episode on this subject in my opinion.

1:32.6

A lot more with the ratio of females to males and vice versa as well as social status in play here a really fascinating interesting episode if you're interested in relationships and human psychology as most of you are.

1:43.4

I also write every so often on the blog my latest post the best way to ask for a promotion and make sure you land it so one of the most common questions here on the show obviously we finally decided to write an article about it. This one's all about rising up in the organization.

1:56.4

What to do if you don't get the promotion you were hoping for using feedback using strategies and mindsets to keep climbing and figure out what you want. Of course all of the articles are at Jordan Harbinger dot com slash articles.

2:09.4

That's where all of our articles and writings reside now by the way I had the funniest brunch the other day this is a by the way when adults who are married say brunch it's not nearly as fun as one single people say brunch I've learned that I've learned that like now.

2:23.4

Now brunch is either one or no drinks back when I was in my 20's brunch was what did we do yesterday and how come it's Sunday already now it's like I had French toast and I feel disgusting right that's but I had the one home it took enough.

2:36.4

Right at least one nap so Jen and I are sitting next to this girl who's on a date with a guy and she's average or so the guy looks like you know Silicon Valley engineer who hasn't seen the sun in a few years.

2:50.4

And she goes well long story short my kid is 12 my ex it doesn't matter I mean he doesn't matter he's not allowed to have any contact with him and then like she's like it's a long story and the guy is just sort of slowly shrinking but also tightening up at the same time.

3:05.4

And then she goes drama I mean it's sort of sounds like drama I mean I love drama who doesn't love drama I mean Bollywood and just I mean I'm also dramatic.

3:14.4

I mean like I can control it but who doesn't want a little drama right and I look at the guy and I look the guy dead in his face because he's across from me like sitting next to Jen and he looks at me once quickly and then again quickly and I look in dead band in the face and I just sort of slowly shook my head.

3:32.4

And he immediately looks down and looks back up at her and looks back over at me and then looks down again and looks back up at her and goes oh okay and I could tell he hadn't heard a word of what she said outside of that but he was just processing my head shake and I was just like dude run for the hills.

3:47.4

Wow Jen after we left because she couldn't say anything in the moment she goes so you you heard that right like you heard that conversation I was like yeah she goes that girl is for sure 100% crazy and in a bad way only and Jen heard even more.

4:01.4

She's like Jen heard even more choice bits like how she doesn't get along with any of her family members in their way to strict and her parents don't approve of any of her choices but they take care of her kid because they wanted to get married and I'm like this is the worst situation.

4:13.4

Wow that this guy could be in right now just absolutely run I don't know what relevance that has to anything but I thought it was kind of a funny story because the guy was just absolutely dear and headlights totally screwed.

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