Good morning everybody.

Stephen Mollan you from...

Free domain listener questions.

Let's go how to decide whether a somewhat chaotic person is worth dating, for example.

I'm currently dating, says a listener, a 30 year old woman who makes above average

salary but cannot save any money cannot cook a place is quite messy and run down and she has

sleeping issues and panic attacks which she says said have disappeared after

deciding to date me.

How could one move forward in such situations without dismissing a person too early,

and perhaps for the wrong reasons, but also without falling into the trap of trying to excessively change or, quote,

save someone? Well, I will tell you that if your most foundational

reason for dating a woman is sexual attraction, you are in for a long and miserable life.

You are in for a long and miserable life.

I'll tell you this, man, over the course of getting married of having work of

aging parents of various ailments of the having and raising of children, I'll just tell you this,

you're going to spend a not insubstantial amount of time over the course of a long marriage not having sex.

You're doing a bunch of other stuff, right?

I mean, the stuff and business of life as a whole.

You are going to spend a significant majority of your time in your life with

a wife not having sex. Just to be aware, just so you know.

So, if your primary attraction to a woman is a desire to have sex with her,

then you're going to spend the vast majority of your life

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