All right, so gosh, what's a demutte?

What is going on with your mother?

My gosh, what a tale.

Yes.

Uh, it's crazy.

She's really crazy. It's, uh, it's crazy. It's intense.

So I don't know.

So yeah, I mean, do you want to tell me the tale from the beginning or what works best for you?

So I've been thinking about this, so I know you asked people where to start.

I was kind of thinking I could start like 10 years ago, so the timeline here because that's when around the

time I discovered FDR and just changed my life so much for the better and like that was just a big turning point and that's also like basically last time I saw her.

Right. So, because what was going on 10 years ago I was miserable.

I had actually been in therapy for years

at that point.

And it wasn't helping helping I was in this terrible marriage we were

only married for about a year and a half so it wasn't a long marriage but it was

a miserable one while it lasted and let's see so my

my father had died just a few years previous and my mother was getting remarried and

she wanted me to be a bridesmaid.

But she never asked me, she just sort of was like you're going to be a bridesmaid and I

for some reason this this was the thing that I got really hung up on and I didn't want to do it right I was just complaining like literally everybody who would listen to me I would just complain oh I have to do this thing and I don't want to I can't believe she's making me do this and finally I was

talking to a guy who listened to your show and he was like well don't do it.

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