557. What Being Nice Is Really Costing You
Better Than Happy
Jody Moore
4.8 • 5.6K Ratings
🗓️ 20 March 2026
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
What if being nice is actually holding you back more than you realize?
Most of us have been taught that being kind, agreeable, and easygoing is a virtue. But when "nice" turns into people-pleasing, avoiding the truth, or saying yes when you really mean no, it starts to cost you in ways you may not have fully considered.
Tune in this week as I break down what being nice is really costing you, and how it shows up in your relationships, work, and everyday interactions. You'll also hear why your brain believes being nice is useful, even when it's clearly not serving you, and a more powerful way to approach your interactions by balancing honesty and kindness so you can communicate with integrity while still being considerate of others.
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| 0:00.0 | The real problem with being too nice is that it's lying. It's anywhere from pretending at best |
| 0:07.2 | to lacking in integrity or lying at worst. Today we're going to dive into why that's true, |
| 0:13.0 | why people still do it so much anyway, and how to get rid of this toxic part of your life. |
| 0:18.2 | Welcome to better than happy. What being nice is really costing you. |
| 0:25.3 | Welcome to Better Than Happy, the podcast where we transform our lives by transforming ourselves. |
| 0:32.7 | My name is Jody Moore. In the decade plus, I've been working with clients as a master certified coach, |
| 0:39.0 | I've helped tens of thousands of people to become empowered. And from empowered, the things that |
| 0:45.0 | seemed hard become trivial. And the things that seemed impossible become available. And suddenly a whole |
| 0:52.7 | new world of desire and possibility open up to you. And what do |
| 0:57.8 | you do with that? Well, that's the question. What will you do? Let's find out. Sometimes listening to a |
| 1:09.1 | podcast is enough, but sometimes you'll feel inspired to go deeper. |
| 1:13.8 | If you hear things that speak to you in today's episode, consider it your invitation to a complimentary coaching workshop. |
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| 2:00.1 | Hey, everybody. Welcome to the podcast. Thanks for joining me today. I have a great topic in store for you today. It's been coming up left and right all over the place. It's especially problematic for women because women are so nice. And it comes up the most in like church settings or maybe at your job or maybe in your |
| 2:22.0 | interpersonal life or in your marriage or with your kids or in your friendships or actually it can |
| 2:27.6 | come up all over the place. We're going to dive into some of those examples today. I'm going to |
| 2:31.1 | talk to you about what it's actually costing you because we need to prove to this part of your brain that thinks it's useful, that it's really not. And then I'm going to |
| 2:38.0 | give you some tips and strategies to try to move out of operating from this place. So I called this |
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