So, hi, everybody. Welcome. I had a question the other day regarding co-dependency.

And so I've put some thought into it. So I'm, of course, usual caveats. I'm no psychologist,

no therapist, no expert, so this is all just amateur, uninformed, untrained ramblings.

But I think that philosophically, there's some very useful stuff that we can talk about it.

So I learned something in sort of looking up this topic, and I really do want to thank the person who suggested that I dig into it.

I thought codependency was sort of two-way, but it's not often. So this is a general

characteristics of codependent people are. If you have an exaggerated sense of responsibility for the

actions of others, right? So if you involve, you know, the I can fix her kind of thing. If you've got a

chaotic person or oftentimes it's sort of male to female, can be female to male if you've got that kind of thing. If you've got a chaotic person or oftentimes it's sort of male to female,

can be female to male if you've got that kind of messy person on your hands. The typical thing

would be a woman whose husband's a drunk and she takes care of him, she cleans him up,

she calls in sick when he's got a hangover and pretends that he's unconscious from some ailment. And so an exaggerated sense of responsibility for the actions of others. That's sort of one. Another is if you confuse love and pity, right, if you think that the two are the same. So if there's someone who's really flailing and not getting what they want and you pour your energies into trying to help them to get them to the next level and so on, like back of the day, I had a girlfriend and I funded, I wrote, directed and funded, sorry, I wrote, produced, she directed, and funded a

movie to sort of try and get her media career going. And that was sort of a rescue situation.

And I might as well have flushed the money down the toilet with the exception that I got

out of the relationship. So I guess it was good. So if somebody's flailing around and you just want to

save them and help them and get them to the next level and all of that, avert catastrophe and so on,

if you think pity and love are similar, then you could be codependent. And if you feel like it's the me plus I talked about way back

of the day with the Robin Williams presentation. So if you generally feel like you have to do

more than your share in general all the time. Now, of course, there's times in relationships where

you do more than your share and there are times in your relationship where the other person does more than their share, right? So of course, there's times in relationships where you do more than your share, and there are times in your relationship where the other person does more than their share, right?

So, of course, after my wife gave birth to my lovely daughter, I did quite a bit of work that she wasn't doing because she was up feeding, and I would be up to feeding sometimes sometimes of feeding sometimes.

I did a lot more sort of work in all of that when I have

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