So hi everybody welcome I had a question the other day

regarding co-dependency and so I've put some thought into it

So I'm of course usual caveats. I'm no psychologist, no therapist, no expert, so this is all just amateur uninformed, untrained ramblings, but I think that philosophically there's some very useful stuff that we can talk about it.

So I learned something in sort of looking up this topic and I really do want to thank the person who suggested that I dig into it.

I thought co-dependency was sort of two-way, but it's not often.

So this is a general characteristic of-dependent people are.

If you have an exaggerated sense of responsibility

for the actions of others, right?

So if you involve, you know, the I can fix her

kind of thing if you've got a chaotic person or oftentimes it's sort of male to female

can be female to male if you've got that kind of messy person on your hands.

The typical thing would be a woman whose husband is drunk and she takes care of him, she cleans him up, she calls in sick when he's got a hangover and pretends that he's unconscious from some ailment and so an exaggerated sense of responsibility

for the actions of others.

That sort of one.

Another is if you confuse love and pity, right, if you think that the two are the same.

So if there's someone who's really flailing and not getting what they want and you pour your

energies into trying to help them to get them to the next level and

so on like back of the day. I had a girlfriend and I funded, I wrote Directed and

funded, sorry, I wrote Produ directed, and funded, sorry, I wrote, produced, she directed, and funded a movie to sort of try and get her media career going,

and that was sort of a rescue situation, and might as well have flushed the money down the toilet with the

exception that I got out of the relationship. So I guess it was good. So if somebody's flailing around

and you just want to save them and help them and get them to the next level and all of that,

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