548 7 Strategies to Stop Being Defensive
The Terri Cole Show
Terri Cole
4.9 • 1.5K Ratings
🗓️ 7 October 2023
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
When someone comes to you with negative feedback, do you get defensive?
Do you automatically come up with reasons why you did something, building a case for the way you did it?
Do you shift the blame onto someone else?
Or does your heart start racing?
If this resonates, you are not alone. It is human to want to defend your choices, actions, and beliefs.
But defensiveness damages our relationships, which is why this episode is all about becoming more aware of defensive behavior and what you can do instead.
I am covering the signs and symptoms of defensiveness, why we get defensive in the first place, and strategies you can use to become less defensive.
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| 0:00.0 | Well, hello there and welcome to this episode of the Terry Colshon. |
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| 1:00.2 | If somebody comes to you and they've got an issue with something they want to give you |
| 1:04.4 | some critical or negative feedback, how defensive are you? |
| 1:08.7 | Are you immediately like, well, this is why I did it or you did the same thing or so |
| 1:13.2 | to Bob or whatever, like how defensive are you honestly? |
| 1:17.2 | Think about it. |
| 1:18.2 | So in today's episode, I'm going to be talking all about defensiveness. |
| 1:22.9 | What are the signs and symptoms of defensiveness? |
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