5431 When to Drop "Friendships"

Freedomain with Stefan Molyneux

Stefan Molyneux

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🗓️ 9 March 2024

⏱️ 62 minutes

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"Why do some people go through life without significant and meaningful goals? I have a friend who is 41 in a few months and she has no savings and no real dreams. I know she wants a domestic life and wanted a family at one point, but things didn’t work out with the guy she was in love with and now she’s living very casually, like a young adult. I’m 34 and I’ve been trying to get my life together. I’ve got some savings and I’m being persistent about my goals. My friend recently returned from travelling and I lent her $ because she was completely without a dollar to her name. I noticed that since then she has been a bit resentful towards me, she in some way feels entitled to help from me but I can’t help her anymore. She tells herself that the reason she isn’t well is that people won’t help her, but they do and she never has enough resources to help anyone else. I’ve reflected on it and I’ve realized that her problem is she doesn’t really want anything for herself or others with passion. There isn’t anything meaningful that drives her forward in life, she is aimless. I worry that as time goes by it will be more difficult for her to avoid her own lack of motivation by relying on the sympathy of others. She is very intelligent and creative. Great language skills and very quick to learn new skills. It appears the only thing holding her back is a mental construct. How can she find passion for a goal that will incentivize her to accumulate resources and an independent sense of security? What will happen if she doesn’t?"

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0:00.0	All right.
0:03.0	There's my big intro.
0:04.2	All right.
0:05.5	Questions from freedomain.locals.com.
0:07.5	Please join this great community.
0:10.3	All right.
0:10.7	Why do some people go through life without significant and meaningful goals?
0:16.6	I have a friend who's 41 in a few months and she has no savings and no real dreams. I know she wants a domestic life and wanted a family at one point, but things didn't work out with the guy she was in love with. And now she's living very casually, like a young adult. I'm 34 and I've been trying to get my life together. I've got some savings and I'm being persistent about my goals. My friend recently returned from traveling,
0:38.9	so I shouldn't love, and I lent her dollars because she was completely without a dollar to her name.
0:43.1	I noticed that since then she's been a bit resentful towards me. She, in some way, feels entitled
0:48.8	to help from me, but I can't help her anymore. She tells herself that the reason she isn't well is that people
0:54.8	won't help her, but they do, and she never has enough resources to help anyone else. I've reflected on it,
1:00.1	and I've realized that her problem is she doesn't really want anything for herself or others with passion.
1:05.8	There isn't anything meaningful that drives her forward in life. She's aimless. I worried that as time
1:10.4	goes by, it will be more
1:11.7	difficult for her to avoid her own lack of motivation by relying on the sympathy of others.
1:16.3	She's very intelligent and creative, great language skills, and very quick to learn new skills.
1:21.5	It appears the only thing holding her back is a mental construct. How can she find passion
1:26.2	for a goal that will incentivize her
1:29.7	to accumulate resources and an independent self of security? What will happen if she doesn't?
1:35.3	Well, well, well, what a big, deep and great question. And I, you know, I've lived that kind of do
1:41.2	the next thing and trundle on week by week and I've done that kind of stuff and I
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