538 - When Knowing Better Doesn't Mean Doing Better

Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Multiamory, LLC

Sexuality, Self-improvement, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Education

4.9 • 935 Ratings

🗓️ 15 July 2025

⏱️ 67 minutes

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Today, we're discussing why we struggle to put the communication and relationship lessons we learn into practice. Current generations are more therapy-literate than ever, but that doesn't mean our relationships are healthier. What happens when everyone knows the psychological buzzwords but hasn't done the deeper work of integration and change? We're diving into the reasons why learning how to do relationships better isn’t always enough, talk about the research available on the topic, and of course, finally give you some practical tools to bridge the gap between insight and real change.Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retreat in northern Spain (September 22-25, 2025) - sliding scale pricing available, use code MULTI when you apply at www.multiamory.com/retreat.Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community.Get 10% off sexual health supplements at vb.health with promo code MULTI.Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello, multiamery folks and friends. Let's go to Spain together. That's right, Orit Krug and I are hosting
0:07.0	a somatic retreat, especially for polyamorous folks that's going to be in beautiful northern Spain
0:13.2	from September 22nd to the 25th, 2025. We're going to be spending four days together in a beautiful
0:20.6	natural setting, and Orit and I are going to guide you through somatic practices that can help shift long-held patterns and help you develop some powerful tools for navigating non-monogamy with more ease and confidence.
0:34.0	We handle all the details so that you can be fully present. Your accommodations are taken care of. You don't have to clean or cook. All your meals are taken care of. We really want people to feel as cared for as possible. You're welcome to come solo or to bring a partner or to bring all of your partners. Everybody is welcome. We also offer sliding scale pricing, and if
0:55.9	cost is a concern for you, please don't let that stop you from applying. We're happy to explore
1:00.3	options that work for you and for your financial situation. So we already have people signing up
1:06.7	for this one, which is nuts. We do have limited spots. So if you're interested, go to
1:11.9	multi-amory.com slash retreat. To apply today, mention the Multiamre podcast when you apply. Again,
1:18.2	that's multi-amry.com slash retreat. And I hope that I can see you in Spain.
1:26.9	I do think that thinking about that again with a partner and with your relationships is if we are in this mindset of it's me against them or I have to win, I have to be right, that then there is no altruistic reason for you to give in any case or to be the first one to apologize or to admit
1:45.5	when you've done things wrong, versus if you're able to instead think, oh, having a better
1:51.1	relationship with this person is also better for me, then it kind of helps empower your self-interest
1:56.8	to also help make things better for that other person. And I think that's that interesting, subtle difference.
2:01.6	People often can overlook how important that can be
2:04.5	of how much do we identify our own happiness and well-being
2:07.8	with someone else's.
2:10.3	Welcome to the Multi-Amory podcast.
2:13.2	I'm Jace.
2:14.1	I'm Emily.
2:15.3	And I'm Dedeker.
2:16.5	We believe in looking to the future of relationships,
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