538: How to Self-Soothe

Brave Love Great Sex – Couples Therapy Podcast

Cloud10

Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 3 April 2026

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Hello Brave Lovers! Join us today in our conversation on how to self-regulate when you are in conflict with your partner. We often discuss the power of co-regulation; when partners can be there and ease the distress of one another. However self-regulation is a powerful and necessary tool when your partner isn't available or their attempts to soothe you become a step in the negative cycle. Listen to Laurie and George today as they share how to self-regulate, when is a good time to use the skills and what it looks like in practice. Self-regulation gives us the opportunity to reflect on our behavior, the impact it has on our partner and what the underlying need is. Our book, Brave Love, Great Sex is out on September 15th. Make sure to pre-order your copy on Amazon today! our own individual responsibility to work on the cycle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm Albi Manzo, and I am the host of an advice podcast called Dear Albi with my brother Chris.
0:04.9	I'm Chris Manzo. My brother hosts an advice show called Dear Alby. Dear Albi. I knew having you on the ad was going to be a bad idea. Listen to Dear Albi on the IHeart app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. The following content is not suitable for children. Okay, George, we talk a lot about the cycle and how one person's reactivity is caused
0:23.1	by the other person's trigger. But sometimes we've got to think about, like, what is our
0:30.2	own individual responsibility to resolve the cycle, right? What do we do? And I think it's really important to think about. So,
0:39.5	what do you say? Individual accountability. I like it. Bring it on, Lori. Okay. Welcome to the Brave
0:47.2	Love Great Sex Podcast. I'm Dr. Lori Watson, licensed couple and certified sex therapist. And I'm
0:53.3	George Fowler, couples therapist,
0:55.3	EFT trainer, and retired New York City firefighter. In every relationship, love requires bravery,
1:02.0	especially to turn towards each other when there is a lot of fighting and defensiveness.
1:07.2	We want to help you stay present with each other sexually as well. Both emotional connection and erotic
1:13.1	intimacy are the bedrock of couple security. Brave love, great sex is where we help you reconnect,
1:19.8	repair, and reignite desire to help create the secure, lasting love we all deserve. Find our book by
1:26.9	the same name, Brave love, great sex. Find our book by the same name.
1:27.9	Brave love, great sex.
1:29.3	George, September 15th is coming close,
1:32.2	and Brave Love, Great Sex is going to be published.
1:35.5	Yehoo.
1:37.2	We are on Amazon now, so please find us there.
1:41.8	And we would love your support in buying the book.
1:44.6	That really helps us build up for a big pop when it's actually published.
1:50.4	So thank you very much if you could look for it there.
1:54.5	We would be much appreciated.
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