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#532: Sheila Heen of The Harvard Negotiation Project — How to Navigate Hard Conversations, the Subtle Art of Apologizing, and a Powerful 60-Day Challenge

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🗓️ 15 September 2021

⏱️ 120 minutes

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Sheila Heen of the Harvard Negotiation Project — How to Navigate Hard Conversations, the Subtle Art of Apologizing, and a Powerful 60-Day Challenge | Brought to you by LinkedIn Jobs recruitment platform with 750M users, Eight Sleep’s Pod Pro Cover sleeping solution for dynamic cooling and heating, and Public Goods high-quality everyday essentials. More on all three below.

Sheila Heen is a New York Times best-selling author, founder of Triad Consulting Group, and a deputy director of the Harvard Negotiation Project at Harvard Law School, where she has been a member of the faculty for 25 years. Sheila specializes in particularly difficult negotiations, where emotions run high and relationships become strained. She often works with executive teams, helping them to resolve conflict, repair professional relationships, and make sound decisions together. In the public sector, she has provided training for the New England Organ Bank, the Singapore Supreme Court, the Obama White House, and theologians struggling with disagreement over the nature of truth and God.

Sheila is co-author of the New York Times bestsellers Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most and Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well (even when it’s off base, unfair, poorly delivered, and, frankly, you’re not in the mood). She has written for the Harvard Business Review and the New York Times — as a guest expert and contributor to the “Modern Love” column — and she has appeared on NPR, Fox News, CNBC’s Power Lunch, and shows as diverse as Oprah and The G. Gordon Liddy Show. She has spoken at the Global Leadership Summit, the Nordic Business Forum, the Smithsonian, Apple, Google, and Microsoft. Sheila is a graduate of Occidental College and Harvard Law School. She is schooled in negotiation daily by her three children.

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This episode is brought to you by Public Goods, the one stop shop for sustainable high quality

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everyday essentials made from clean ingredients at an affordable price. Public Goods is your new

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A to Z people on my team already used public goods before they became a sponsor and I tested them

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and now so do I. One person loves their ramen noodles for instance for backpacking, camping,

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festivals like Burning Man and so on. Another loves their bamboo toothbrushes and now uses them and

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many other products. I love their candles and many of their food staples. My dog Molly loves

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their freeze dried duck nibs and Public Goods searches the globe to find healthy eco-friendly

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and innovative products and then packages them using a single streamlined aesthetic for your home.

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So you can get all of your premium essentials in one place affordably and avoid buying from a

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bunch of mismatched single product brands. Public Goods also ethically sources and obsessively

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low and pass on even more savings to their customers. Small changes in the way we shop can make a big

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impact on personal health and the world at large. So join hundreds of thousands of others who have

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switched to their new everything store public goods. I worked out an exclusive deal just for you

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my listeners. You can receive $20 off of the products in your first Public Goods order with no

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minimum purchase. Just go to public goods.com slash Tim or use code Tim. That's T.I.M. at checkout.

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One more time that's public.com forward slash Tim to receive $20 off of your first order.

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Temperature is one of the main causes of poor sleep and heat has always been my nemesis.

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