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Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

532 - Is Attachment Theory Just Bullsh*t?

Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Multiamory, LLC

Sexuality, Self-improvement, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Education

4.9935 Ratings

🗓️ 3 June 2025

⏱️ 62 minutes

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Summary

We're returning to attachment theory this week as we go over some of the criticisms it has faced since rising in popularity. For some, attachment theory has been a powerful tool of self-discovery, but others dismiss it as pseudo pop psychology. Where do you fall on that spectrum of credibility? Today we're discussing the cases for and against attachment theory and whether or not non-monogamy can help heal unhealthy attachments. For more fundamentals on attachment theory, check out https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/291-attachment-theory-and-polyamory and https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/82-attachment-styles Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retreat in northern Spain (September 22-25, 2025) - sliding scale pricing available, use code MULTI when you apply at www.multiamory.com/retreat. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

Hello, multiamery folks and friends. Let's go to Spain together. That's right, Orit Krug and I are hosting a

0:07.2

somatic retreat, especially for polyamorous folks that's going to be in beautiful northern Spain

0:13.2

from September 22nd to the 25th, 2025. We're going to be spending four days together in a beautiful

0:20.6

natural setting, and Orit and I are going to guide you through somatic practices that can help shift long-held patterns and help you develop some powerful tools for navigating non-monogamy with more ease and confidence.

0:34.0

We handle all the details so that you can be fully present. Your accommodations are taken care of. You don't have to clean or cook. All your meals are taken care of. We really want people to feel as cared for as possible. You're welcome to come solo or to bring a partner or to bring all of your partners. Everybody is welcome. We also offer sliding scale pricing, and if

0:55.9

cost is a concern for you, please don't let that stop you from applying. We're happy to explore

1:00.3

options that work for you and for your financial situation. So we already have people signing up

1:06.7

for this one, which is nuts. We do have limited spots. So if you're interested, go to

1:11.9

multi-amory.com slash retreat. To apply today, mention the Multiamary podcast when you apply. Again,

1:18.2

that's multi-amory.com slash retreat. And I hope that I can see you in Spain.

1:33.2

These topics, not just attachment theory, but all the building blocks that go into a relationship and that go into creating a secure attachment, it's been a constant conversation,

1:38.8

constant ongoing conversation on a relationship, both on a microphone and off of a microphone.

1:43.7

So I think that's really the more important thing is when you're negotiating with a partner or talking to in our relationship both on a microphone and off of a microphone.

1:45.9

So I think that's really the more important thing,

1:49.4

is when you're negotiating with a partner or talking to a partner about these things,

1:52.0

it doesn't have to be in this particular language.

1:56.0

I think it just really has to be about, I can be vulnerable, you can be vulnerable,

2:00.3

we can share the lessons we learned about relationships that were given to us by our caregivers. We can share the way that we want to feel in our relationships and we can negotiate about what the two of us can do together and individually to move us in that direction.

2:11.9

Welcome to the Multi-Amory podcast. I'm Jace. I'm Emily and I'm Dedeker.

2:18.1

We believe in looking to the future of relationships, not maintaining the status quo of the past.

2:24.4

Whether you're monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just do relationships

2:30.2

differently, we see you, and we're here for you.

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