53 Why Family of Origin Triangulation Is Such A Big Deal
The Place We Find Ourselves
Adam Young
4.8 • 2.5K Ratings
🗓️ 2 December 2019
⏱️ 40 minutes
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Summary
Triangulation occurs when Mom or Dad becomes emotionally closer to one of the children than to their spouse. Patria and I discuss the fallout of triangulation in the life of the family and the life of the "special" child. The triangulated daughter often becomes hyper-attuned to Dad, and is setup to be envied by Mom and her (unchosen) siblings. It’s a devastating dynamic that does immense damage to the heart of the triangulated child.
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to episode 53 of The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast. |
| 0:05.2 | I'm Adam Young and today my friend Petria shares one of her stories from middle school. |
| 0:11.6 | I haven't said this in a while, but just as a reminder, |
| 0:15.0 | anytime you choose to share one of your stories publicly, you're taking a risk, a big risk. |
| 0:21.2 | So as you listen to Petria's story, I'd ask you to consider, |
| 0:25.6 | what does it mean to hold with honor the story of someone whom you likely do not know? |
| 0:31.4 | And how can you receive Petria's story with a sense of sacredness, a sense of gratitude, |
| 0:37.4 | knowing that it has cost her something to share this story publicly? |
| 0:42.9 | Remember that if you want to listen to episodes as soon as they are released, |
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| 0:49.7 | Episodes will be available for free four weeks after they are released to the app. |
| 0:54.5 | So if you want to support the podcast for $2.99 a month and get immediate access, |
| 1:00.0 | instructions are on my website. |
| 1:02.4 | Thanks so much for listening. Here's my conversation with Petria. |
| 1:11.2 | I have Petria with me. Petria, it's good to see you. |
| 1:14.7 | Thank you, Adam. It's good to see you too. |
| 1:17.2 | Thanks for coming on the podcast. |
| 1:18.9 | Can you start by just saying a little bit about who you are, where you are, what you're up to? |
| 1:24.4 | Yeah, well, I first and foremost, I'm a wife and a mom. |
| 1:29.3 | My kids are grown. They're 22 and so they're both in college. |
| 1:34.4 | Our world has changed pretty dramatically with those grown-up kids. |
| 1:39.4 | I work full-time at my local church. I'm on staff there and I just have the |
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