Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist rock star, and master coach, Kara Loyenthyle. Hello, chickens. Time for another installment of listener questions and answers.

We have some great ones today I think are going to really help you guys

understand how to apply the teachings. So let's just jump in, no reason to delay.

Hi Kara, I'm in the midst of overwhelm right now,

so I thought I'd go ahead and ask you something that I feel is consuming me. How do you deal with being in high demand?

Demand from your clients, demand from your spouse, your friends, your colleagues, your children,

and your family? I feel like everyone wants my complete and undivided attention and

I'm struggling to share myself around. I have needy children and a very needy

best friend. I'm feeling completely suffocated. Please send help. Okay it was funny as I started reading that like this downpour

arrived. You guys might be able to hear the rain. It's funny timing. Okay, so you gotta manage your mind.

Other people can want whatever they want.

You don't feel overwhelmed because of them.

You think your child is needy and your best friend is needy

and that everybody's demanding things from you and that's why you're everybody's demanding things from you

and that's why you feel overwhelmed.

But that's not why you feel overwhelmed.

You feel overwhelmed because of your thoughts.

You have the thought my children are needy.

You have the thought my best friend is very needy. You have the thought everyone wants my complete and undivided attention.

Those thoughts are what is creating the feeling of overwhelm for you.

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