You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, I'm going to be

answering the community question of, I'm anxious, he's avoidant, is it weird that I

want more sex than him? So this is something that I get asked a lot, and I have touched on this

dynamic before on the show, but given the frequency with which I get variations on this question,

I think it's important to devote a whole episode to unpacking it. And, you know, spoiler alert, it's not weird at all.

This dynamic is actually extremely common.

I would say more common than not.

So if you are someone in an anxious avoidant relationship

and you have noticed a mismatch in libido that looks like the anxious partner wanting

sex a lot more than the avoidant partner does. Rest assured, you're not alone. It's actually very,

very common. So I'm hoping that in today's episode, I can unpack for you why that's not

weird, why it actually makes a lot of

sense and, you know, what the drivers are of that dynamic and, you know, how you can work with

it rather than exacerbating it because I think most people, without the knowledge and awareness

of what's going on on will personalise this dynamic

and act out from a place of hurt and make it a lot worse. And that can be really challenging

because we get stuck there. So that's what we're talking about today. Before we dive into that,

a couple of quick announcements. The first being just another reminder that the wait list for

healing anxious attachment is open. As at the time of recording, there are over 500 people already

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