527-If Your Wife Puts the Kids First, This Is the Leadership Problem You Need to Fix

Delight Your Marriage

Belah Rose

Health & Fitness, Religion & Spirituality, Sexuality, Christianity

4.7 • 589 Ratings

🗓️ 27 March 2026

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

Become the man your wife respects and desires again—before prices increase
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I'm speaking to a man who wants to fix things. He is not a whiner, complainer, or blamer. He's interested in taking responsibility and making things better. But if he's really honest with himself, sometimes he feels that his wife prioritizes the kids above him.

If you're in that category, I'd like to speak to you directly. You're right, it's not ok. This isn't a good dynamic. And if she's a Jesus-follower, it's also not biblical.

Ok.

Now that that's settled.

What do you do?

The thing you CAN control is yourself. You can update the lens by which you are evaluating the situation.

As a driven guy you know that if you do the same thing in business, you'll get the same results. But if you shift gears and do something else -- you'll see different results.

That's what I'm inviting you to do today. Shift gears. Try on a different set of lenses and see if God can change your marriage through you.

Let's go.

Here to see you win,

Belah

PS - Ready to take the next step in healing your marriage? Schedule a free Clarity Call today (before prices increase!): https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/cc

PPS - Here is a quote from a recent Coaching program graduate:
"I was living in a repeating cycle of expecting sex, not being fulfilled by it because of her lack of desire for me, being angry at her for not trying to connect with me in the relationship, holding it in for as long as possible, then trying to "fix it" by talking to her about it or lashing out at her..[Now,] The biggest celebration I have had would be my change in perspective…I have learned that as a husband and father it is up to me to set the tone in our family. I am now living in God's purpose and design and the pieces around me are falling into place. Realizing that it's not what happens around me but how I see it and react to it has been the biggest blessing from this course."

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0:00.0	If you're a high performing man, you likely already know how to win at business in most areas of your life.
0:06.3	But your marriage may feel disconnected, may feel like you're just roommates or even sexless.
0:13.1	So this is for you.
0:14.3	I run one of the top 1% podcast worldwide with millions of downloads heard in 180 countries.
0:20.7	I am thrilled that I have helped
0:21.9	transform their marriage over the last decade. It is an honor and I am excited to help you
0:26.9	transform your marriage without sacrificing biblical truths because that is what works. So let's get
0:34.0	into it. Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast.
0:39.6	You're joining me, Bella Rose, as I dive deep into the beauty, power, and truths about intimacy.
0:45.8	Learn not only the practicals, but the heart behind what making love is all about.
0:51.0	Delight your marriage.
0:57.8	As I've had the opportunity to coach a lot of men,
1:06.2	there's a very common phrase that's used is she prioritized the kids above me. I'm at the very bottom of her to-do list and it's almost as though if I weren't here making the money, she would assume
1:14.2	I wasn't in the house at all. That is a very common mindset or perspective men have coming in.
1:22.0	And that's awful and painful. And I think one of the biggest struggles men have to even pursue this kind of
1:31.8	material is to say, that makes me look so weak. If in my intimate relationship, I am disregarded,
1:42.2	it's so embarrassing to even come out and say, this is how I feel. Because as men,
1:48.4	you don't want to feel not good enough. You don't want to feel not good enough. You don't want to
1:52.3	feel worthless in your own home. It's the worst feeling a man could have is disrespected and dishonored in the most important
2:06.2	relationship of his life. And so a lot of times men will run hard at work because he feels
2:14.6	useful. He feels like he has worth and he can win at work. But when he comes home,
2:23.1	it's like, you know, there's not no one at the door greeting him or excited to see him. It's just like,
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