52: Seven Ways to Handle Complainers
Coaching for Leaders
Dave Stachowiak
4.8 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 27 August 2012
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
If you are doing any type of serious leadership, you are going to hear complaining. As I discuss in this episode, complaining isn’t always a bad thing, but you need to handle it appropriately as a leader. In this episode, I discuss seven ways to handle complainers in your organization.
1. Expect ingratitude “The day soldiers stop bringing you their problems is the day you have stopped leading them. They have either lost confidence that you can help or concluded that you do not care. Either case is a failure of leadership.” – Colin Powell
2. Give people time and a venue to complain
- People don’t always want a solution to their problems
- Limit this time
3. Set the agenda in advance (and time frames)
- Have them bring an agenda to the meeting
- Follow that agenda
- If they aren’t ready for that, you set agenda and send to them in advance
4. Require solutions to problems
- Ask people to always bring a realistic solution along with any complaint
- They know the issue better than you do – they’ve thought it through
5. Set time limits and stick to them (see details in the 6 Habits to Keep People from Wasting Your Time article)
- Let people know in advance how much time you have
- End meetings on time
- If you need to, book something else after the meeting
6. Be frank with people
- Tell people why you aren’t taking action
- If they aren’t coming with solutions, call them on it. Share examples.
7. Limit your interactions with that person (try the others first)
- Gallup says that the best leaders spend a majority of their time with their best people
- You don’t have to always be available – schedule a time
- Use caller ID
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to coaching for leaders. This is episode number 52 airing on August 27th 2012. |
| 0:08.0 | Produced by Innovate Learning, Maximizing Human Potential. learning, maximizing human potential. |
| 0:14.0 | Welcome to coaching for leaders. |
| 0:20.0 | This is the show for leaders who want to improve themselves so they can better engage and develop |
| 0:25.8 | others. |
| 0:26.8 | Whether you're a season leader or leading people for the first time, improving your leadership |
| 0:31.6 | skills will drive your success and most importantly the success of others. |
| 0:37.0 | This week's topic, seven ways to handle complainers. |
| 0:44.0 | Well hello everyone and welcome back for another episode of coaching for leaders. |
| 0:49.0 | My name is Dave Stahoviac and I am coming to you from our studio out here in beautiful Orange County, California |
| 0:55.8 | and if this is the first time that you are joining us for the Coaching for Leaders show, I'm so grateful that you've decided to tune in and connect as a listener and I hope you find something of value here today and today we are going to talk about |
| 1:09.8 | Complainers the people in our organizations that tend to monopolize a whole lot of our time and |
| 1:16.6 | tend to not monopolize it in a great way. |
| 1:19.9 | And I mentioned on last week's episode that I received an email from one of our listeners |
| 1:25.2 | Tom who had asked about this topic and I'm just going to read his email here up front and |
| 1:31.9 | when I saw this email I thought oh that's a good topic for a |
| 1:36.2 | show because this is something that a lot of us struggle with. So here's what |
| 1:40.5 | Tom says. Tom says Dave Dave, love your show. |
| 1:44.2 | Just listen to the one about driving people nuts |
| 1:46.8 | that we did a few weeks ago. |
| 1:47.9 | Really liked it. |
| 1:49.3 | An issue that's been getting under, |
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