If we had some more honest conversations at the beginning of this when it wasn't a problem that had become because of the silence, a bigger thing, it would have probably been easier for us to traverse.

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In this week's episode, we're going to throw it back to one of the most popular interviews I've ever done.

It was a conversation that I had with my husband about one of the hardest seasons of our marriage and one of the most difficult conversations we've ever had.

Since we've recently launched our own couples podcast, I thought it might be great to bring it back and to give you an idea of the kind of conversations that even though they're hard, make your relationship so much stronger.

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I want to impact that conversation. I had gone to this conference, I was feeling really inspired, you were having the feelings that you were having and we're probably nine months removed from me going to the conference.

I was honestly feeling frustrated and getting close to resentful is the truth.

But I didn't want to tell Dave, I'm feeling frustrated because you're not growing because that sounds so mean.

How can you just demand someone has the desire to grow or change?

So I did what is the worst thing I think you can do in marriage or partnerships in work is say nothing.

So say nothing and chew on your resentment and get really frustrated.

And I just kept getting what those feelings grow and faster and then they come out in ways they're not supposed to.

Like you're you know, you know, it's like, can you have me the mustard? You're like, why do you need the mustard?

It comes out in a totally inappropriate way because you're not processing and that's hard because it's it's like I know what I would hope for from our marriage and our relationship.

But I also love you so much and I don't want to hurt your feelings and I knew that it would hurt your feelings.

Yeah. So I finally just got to a place where I'm like, this is not this is super unhealthy on my part to bottle it all up.

There's the old saying to be unclear is to be unkind.

So it's usually used for work, but it works in marriage.

Like if you are frustrated with your partner, but you're not telling them why and not in a mean way, but in a helpful, you know, whatever.

Also though, I think if there's any learning too and like I think we're both better about it in the aftermath of confronting something that was hard.

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