Well, hello there and welcome to this episode of the Terry Cole show that I want to start with a question, are you a warrior?

Maybe you come from a long line of warriors, thinking about all of the bad stuff that could happen, and basically just hoping that it doesn't.

This also could be learned behavior. Maybe you saw it in the family of origin that you grew up in, but if you're not in your head, yes, then this episode is for you, my friend.

Because in this episode, I'm going to be breaking down what it really means to be a warrior, what are we actually doing?

And I'm going to give you steps that you can take to worry less and actually live in this amazing present moment more.

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All right, let's move into today's episode.

This is the Terry Cole show. And as you might have guessed, I'm your host, Terry Cole, for over two and a half decades, I've been a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert.

And I'm also the author of Boundary Boss, the essential guide to talk true, be seen and finally live free on this show. I'll bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology, inspiring expert interviews and my own insights and observations for my time on the front lines in the fascinating worlds of entertainment, impairment and mental health. Now let's get going with today's episode.

So what does it mean to be a warrior? It means that we are catastrophically projecting into the future about things that haven't happened yet that we really don't want to happen.

So why does it matter? Why does it matter if you're a warrior? Because it's really bad for you. It's bad for your health, it's bad for your emotions, it creates tons of anxiety, you're in a fight flight freeze response when you're worrying so much of the time, it's negative and it's scary. And here's the thing. It doesn't actually change anything.

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